Well now. The game goes on. It amazes me how far she will go to keep the kids away and keep her control.
My bf filled out the paperwork for his son up for an area basketball camp. He wants his son to be able to play school ball and this is one way to do it- let the coaches from the schools see your kids and their abilities.Yes my boys participate, as they have every year for the last 3-5 yrs. They start at their school for a few days and work on fundamentals, then they go to a local college that is sort of centralized and the kids scrimmage each other. His kids go to a different school than mine. So that part is separate. The part at the college is not but they will not play on each others teams. Note that our oldest sons are the SAME age so will play each other in school. My youngest son is a year older than his but they will play each other in high school.
As my bf tried to give her the paperwork as he sat in his truck ( the window was down about 4 inches, she JERKS the papers out of his hand and says NO, they are not doing it because they will be with her kids.
WELL>>>>>>he had already given his son the money and his son took it upon himself to turn everything in the next day...SO..we will see.
He went to pick his boys up this morning to take them hunting . We are talking 4 am. She was waiting for him to get there and runs to his truck to make sure me and my boys are not in the vehicle.
My feelings are...I would push her buttons as much as I could so that she shows herself and there is more for him to give to the judge in July. Her behavior is ridiculous. If ONLY she would put HALF of the time into the kids that she puts into attempting to control everyone around her , good grief!!! She would be a heck of a mom! But instead, she is afraid of losing her children to a woman whom she trusted them with off and on for years. No...we were not friends but knew each other from church and our kids are friends.She is so insecure about who she is and everything , she feels that if she NOW keeps me and my kids away from their  kids
then she will not lose them. But in this process, she is driving away her OWN CHILDREN. The boys want to leave but don't want to leave the youngest to live with her craziness. When I have been around his youngest, she is SO starved for attention, she talks constantly and needs much. It is sad, so sad. They are great kids . They will be so dysfunctional in relationships and will probably be in counseling most of their adult lives. And for what????Because someone in their lives is obsessed with playing with the lives of others.
My statement to him was...play her game. She wants to be told where you go and what you do. Call her every time you make a turn or go into a different dept store. Call her constantly when the kids are with her to find out what they are doing and where they are, as she does. Play the game.
Court is in July. I have to wonder how much of this will go on after the decision is made. They will allow the kids to be around me, they are divorced and no judge will allow that part of her control. EVEN THOUGH she has vowed to "prove me unfit", which as per his lawyer won't happen as I have a spotless record, not even a traffic violation. Never had custody of my kids taken , etc. Mud will be slung but he says no worries. None
How many times will we end up back in court, playing the game? Will she follow the rules then? Will she continually try to tell him what he can and cannot do?
I was reading some of his legal documents yesterday. A few years ago he had the kids around a girlfriend and she took him to court. She asked that ALL if his visitation be revoked . The courts awarded her visitation at her discretion instead. She threatened him with jail every time he turned around. She would tell him..you can't have the kids, then tell him she was putting him in jail for not seeing them. Not allowing visitation because he was seen with her the night before.  The courts gave sole custody to a crazy obsessed woman because my bf didn't have a lawyer.
Play the game...It is such a joke. It does not have to be that way. Lets let our ex spouses move on. Let's raise our kids and do our best to raise them well. we don't have to play the games ,,do we? Do our best to communicate as most separation agreements state.
Heard a quote once about letting something you love go. If you really love them let them go and they will come back to you. If you hold on, they will leave and may never return. Not sure exactly how it was said but it is so true. That is one reason she is now the ex wife. Hold on too tight, never trust and never let go. They leave because they cannot breath, be them selves and therefore be happy. They are suffocated, this I know from experience.
Playing the game. And the winner is????definitely NOT THE KIDS...NOT THE EX SPOUSES>>>NO ONE WINS>>>>But the game goes on....