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SO HURT 

WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST A YEAR, ALTHOUGH WE HAD BEEN DATING 7 YEARS PRIOR TO OUR WEDDING, I PUT MY WHOLE LIFE IN HIS HANDS AND HE LIED AND CHEATED ON ME REPEATELY, I JUST HAD ANOTHER CHILD 4 MONTHS AGO, WE HAVE 3 KIDS TOGETHER, I HAVE BEEN TRYING SO HARD TO MAKE THIS WORK FOR THE KIDS AND JUST BECAUSE I LOVE HIM SO DEARLY.  I HAVE FOUND PICS OF GIRLS IN HIS PHONE, TEXT MESSAGES TO AND FROM WOMEN AND ALOT OF OTHER HORRIBLE THINGS THAT I CARE NOT TO SHARE AT THE MOMENT.  EVEN AFTER ALL THE HURT AND PAIN HE HAS PUT ME THROUGH, IT IS STILL SO HARD TO WALK AWAY FROM HIM, I PRAY EVERY DAY THAT HE WOULD CHANGE, BUT HE DON'T SEEM TO WANT TO CHANGE.  I AM AT THE END OF MY ROPE, I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING AND I DO NOT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO. I WANT SO BADLY FOR HIM TO LOVE AND RESPECT ME LIKE  I DO HIM, BUT I AM NOT SURE IF HE'LL EVER STOP HURTING ME! HE GETS MAD WHEN I LOOK ON HIS PHONE AND QUESTION HIM ABOUT WHAT I FIND, I AM AT A POINT IN MY LIFE WHERE I JUST DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I AM  CONTEMPLATING ON FILING FOR A DIVORCE, BUT I AM NOT SURE IF I AM READY TO STAND ON MY OWN YET.  I HAVE KNOWN HIM FOR SUCH A LONG TIME AND I HAVE COMPLETELY BASED MY ENTIRE LIFE AROUND HIS!  IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE THAT UNDERSTAND HOW I AM FEELING!  HURT, CONFUSED, I JUST FEEL SO LOW BECAUSE I HAVE NEVER IN 8 YEARS CHEATED ON HIM, I NEVER EVEN HAD THE DESIRE TO BE WITH ANYONE ELSE BECAUSE HE SATISFY ME, HE WOULD TRUELY BE THE PERFECT MAN IF HE WAS NOT CONSTANTLY CHEATING AND LYING TO ME!


by keke3305    
Posted on 5/9/2008 12:12 AM
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thanks for the advice, i appreciate it, that's whats up

  by keke3305
Posted on 5/9/2008 10:21 PM

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I understand when you say that you've basically have put your whole life in his hands. First of all that's sweet but thats the wrong idea because obviously he's using your weakness and boosting his ego in the meantime. He likes the attention that he gets (trust me Ive cheated) and the attention feels great and at the same time he has guilt but eventually the guilt dies down and the excuses of where he was are automatic ( you dont even have to think ) . Since he knows how weak minded you are and that you are totally depended on him its nothing to come home after his flings and argue with you a little and after a minute you'll settle down because after all "you'll get over it". I think you need to have more of a backbone and stop trying to be his main squeeze by making babies with a loser. You need to do something that will make you happy and stop giving all your energy and emotions over to him. He aint worth it with or without a wedding ring. If he had respect for you or that family he would consider that but now you need to STOP considering all that love crap and START considering your feelings. Girl you just had a baby so now its time to get back sexy and go out. You dont have to meet somebody but its just to let him know "You aint got me like that".  Do you and stop crying it aint stopped nothing before!

  by peaches86
Posted on 5/9/2008 8:01 AM

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