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Single Moms: How are you celebrating this Mother's Day? 

My first Mother’s Day on my own, I will forever be grateful to my father for coming to New York City to spend the weekend with us. He took Mae and me out to brunch. Then we walked over to the playground, where Mae, who had just turned one, piled sand onto Grandpa’s black dress shoes.

Mother’s Day has always been bittersweet for me. Whenever a stranger says about Mae, “She’s beautiful!” I want to plume my feathers. Nothing else comes close in my pride department. I often add, “She’s smart, too!”

When Mother’s Day arrives, it’s not like my kid is going to set her alarm, wake up, and serve me breakfast in bed. (Do you get that honor? Do tell!) The day will begin like any other Sunday: “Mom, I’m hungry!”

When my dad called this week to ask if he could take us out for brunch, I thanked him over and over. Maybe he’ll come and watch Mae play soccer; he hasn’t seen how fast she flies in her cleats yet.

There have been couple of Mother’s Days when I happened to be dating someone. Those boyfriends let the day come and go, and I tried to hide a tad of disappointment. Sure, Hallmark holidays annoy me, too — but don’t all moms want one day out of the year to feel appreciated?

Maybe it’s hard for someone “on the outside” — say, a boyfriend or a single girlfriend without kids — to appreciate what being a mom means. Or, maybe there’s something intimidating for a guy who took no responsibility for the fact that you’re a mom.

Tell me, mamas: How are you spending this Mother’s Day?

With family? Friends? Over hot cocoa in front of cartoons?

Is anyone getting a little break to go to the spa? Or, to dash off to see an adult movie?


by Rachel-Sarah    
Posted on 5/7/2008 8:55 AM
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Comments for "Single Moms: How are you celebrating this Mother's Day?"  (3) (You must be logged in to answer)

Good for your Dad! I'm glad he helped you celebrate. I had a wonderful day in spite of my ex. This is my first, too. My seven year old asked her dad to help her get a present for he and he went to CVS and bought a ten pack of Reese's Peanut Butter Cups. Ended up I made a big deal out of how they were the perfect present and I found a recipe on the internet and we baked this afternoon. Her brothers are older and more creative. They fixed breakfast complete with coffee and served it to me in bed. All day they have been at "my  service" and have even emptied the dishwasher and taken out the trash without me asking. I told them it had been a wonderful day and my 17 year old said, "Only because you deserve it." I had a little smile on my face and thought to myself ~ even if their father thinks I can't do anything right, I feel pretty sure that I have!! I think the day is all about being happy with your kids and I know I have the best Mother Say, today than I have ever had.

  by littleDJ
Posted on 5/11/2008 5:59 PM

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"..." - My "Ex" managed to overlook this detail along with the fact that she has been somewhat rude these past 15 months during our separation during so-called equitable exchanges of time with our daughter.

I took it upon myself to ask her about this weekend since I have our daughter with me; and, not having additional information or planning coming forth on her behalf, I asked how she would like to work out visitation during "The Hallmark Holiday." She seemed taken back by my inquire but quickly found her footing to state that I can have our daughter with me during "Father's Day." This was very charitable on her part since that day does fall on her weekend rotation. We agreed but I did kindly remind her that she did not follow through with similar plans last year and left me without my daughter during "Father's Day" of 2007. Personally, I would much rather not allow her access to our daughter based on last year's history but I do have to think of how our little girl will react to being denied any interaction with her mother during this weekend.

  by bp
Posted on 5/8/2008 1:41 PM

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What a wonderful thing your father did. As for me I will be spending my first seperated Mother's Day with my family and most importantly my girls. Sure, they have no idea what significance the day holds but they're only 16 months so I'll let it slide for now. I don't think I could spend the day alone.

As for the boyfriend issue: I think the idea of celebrating Mother's Day with you and your child (or children) is intimidating to put it mildly. I believe your thoughts about them bearing no responsibility for you being a mother is precisely right... men.

  by itmustbeme
Posted on 5/8/2008 12:46 PM

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