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5/6/08 

I missed posting yesterday, but had a great time with friends playing golf.  I was good to get a distraction.

Telling the kids on Sunday was hard, but they already knew what was up so it wasn't a complete suprise.  My son took it hardest.  We went for a drive and just talked, not so much about the divorce more about other things.  I discussed with him that he needed to let the emotions flow and not hold it in.  Being a man is not about stuffing your feelings and being a tough guy.  I told him that was a mistake I made when my parents divorced.  I told him that he was going to feel anger, sadness, and other things and if he needed to talk or just be angry to come and use me to talk to.

My daughter was very stoic and I expected her to be more emotional  I am concerned she may be stuffing, but she does have friends she's talking to.  I don't want to push her, when she is ready she'll talk.  I'll just watch to ensure she's doing ok.

by falcon81  330 Posts 

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Yeah, my parents didn't really do a good job with that one.  It's one of my earliest memories.  My mom waking me up in the middle of the night.
"We're leaving."
"What about Daddy?"
"He's not coming with us."

I am such a statistic! ;)

On the other hand, you sound like you're doing it right. It sounds like your daughter has known for a while, it's quite possible she's accepted it already.  Without standing there with a notepad to inspect, myself, I"m only speculating.  Overall it sounds like you're doing well though.  I agree with OCT5 Love, love, love.

Oh and good job going out and playing golf. Any sport or exercise is a great release, and something you can do with friends is even better!
by Robert-Boyd   3887 Posts
Posted on 5/6/2008 12:16 PM
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Sounds like you handled it great.  I remember when my parents told me - i think they did a great job.

My advice? Just tell 'em you love em over and over and over.  its good to hear it! (and prob good to say it)
by oct15   175 Posts
Posted on 5/6/2008 11:27 AM
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