This may help those that are having a really tough time adjusting to their divorce and I wanted to share.  I'm surprised I didn't think to add this sooner.  The last time my unhusband and I split I was given some great advice from somebody. 

This friend told me that when she was having problems in her marriage and she was seeing a counselor that the counselor told her that if things weren't going to work out to write a "bad list" about her spouse.  All the things he said or did to hurt her.  So while she would be going through the divorce process she could read it and it would help remind her of all the bad things in their marriage and help her deal with the loss. 

(He also told her to do the opposite- make a good list- if she was going to make it work)

The last time my unhusband and I split I wrote a bad list and it really helped.  I wrote mine on a timeline basis.  I started at the beginning, from before we were ever married, up until the current time.  And once I got to page 5 in my notebook and hadn't even reached the middle of our 'marital timeline' I knew I was better off without him!  It really works!

So for any of you out there that are really mourning the loss of your marriage severely, try writing a "bad list" on your spouse or exspouse.  It may help you feel better.  Pull it out and read it whenever you are missing them.  

Hopefully this is helpful advice.  Good luck on your lists!   :-)

P.S.

I feel I should add a couple disclaimers,though:

1. This list is only for you- don't shove it in your ex's face during your next fight, no matter how tempting.  It'll just make things worse.

2. This may not work if your ex was an angel up until the time you split.  (Although that's probably a rarity)