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going from we to me 

The one thing I catch myself doing all the time is saying 'our'.  Like 'our' bedroom or 'our' place.   I have made it a goal to replace 'our' with 'my' in my conversations and I've gotten really good at it.  Changing that one word makes feel a little taller, it gives me that added confidence boost.  I don't have to share anything with a controlling, hurtful person anymore.  I am my own person and these are my things, this is my place and my bedroom.  What a difference a word makes. 

Now if only I could change 'hurt' to 'happy' in my heart, I'd be all set.  :-)
by Emeraldsky  175 Posts 

Posted on 5/5/2008 4:29 PM
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I figured I wasn't alone in this one, it's funny how little things like that become so habitual.  Just one more thing to get over, huh?  In the meantime I'll have to give that 'sore-rose' one a try!

by Emeraldsky   175 Posts
Posted on 5/5/2008 10:11 PM
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Hurt doesn't have enough letters to make Happy.  You can make Thur, but that's hardly satisfying is it?  Try sore, you can make a Rose.  That's at least a step closer to happier.

As for the "i" "me"  "us" "We" thing, yeah.  That takes forever to undo.  I'm getting better about it though.  I'm actually good with it in the present.  I have trouble with the past tense though.  I don't know if I'll ever get that one right.
by Robert-Boyd   3887 Posts
Posted on 5/5/2008 9:24 PM
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That is a definitely a challenge we all face. I don't think I ever managed to accomplish that in the home we shared. It was always "our condo," "our stuff." Moving freed me from a lot of that. But semantics are still a struggle. I still slip and refer to him as "my husband." I still haven't managed to get the "ex" in front of "mother-in-law" or "father-in-law." And when we talk, I still respond to his pet nickname for me as if it were natural and I still catch myself responding to his profession of love with "I love you, too." Baby steps...it's all we can expect of ourselves. They say time heals all wounds...Good luck with yours!
by freeangel   281 Posts
Posted on 5/5/2008 6:59 PM
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