Hurting 

Hey AMR.  I am so sorry about your situation!  When we get married we intend that it will last.  When it doesn't, it throws everything off.  I will tell you though, it does get better.  It takes time, but each day you stand on your own is another day you get better.

You might think about seeing a therapist. They can really help you to sort through the tornado of emotions that divorce brings.  With love, betrayal, loneliness, and everything else, it's good to have somebody who can hold the stuff out for you to sift through.

And of course whenever you need a shoulder, we're all here too.

There is another great website for people who are going through what you are.  Its called survivinginfidelity.com.  You'll want to start in the Just found out area.  The people there are as great as they are here.  Get some professional help as infidelity can be one of the greatest hurts that can happen to people.  I'll be thinking positive thoughts for you.

My husband cheated on me last year and I was devastated as well.  I really felt like my life was completely over and that I was not going to be able to handle it.  I have two small kids and I felt like everything was falling apart and the sad part is that I had no control over it.  At that point I felt that I had two options.  I could either roll over and be depressed, upset, and lie around and do nothing...or I could pick myself up and make myself happy by moving forward in my life...by making myself and my boys happy.  I choose to do the later and even though things were not easy to go through I found the strength each and every day to deal with everything.  I never thought I could be this strong, but if there is anything positive out of this situation it is that I have become a very independent, strong individual...plus it has made me realize what is important in life, it has made me a better parent, and it has made me a better person.  He took a little part of me away with him last year, but he was not going to take my spirit.  I suggest you continue down your path to leaving.  My motto is once a cheater always a cheater.  My husband did not want to make it work, but honestly I am glad that he did not because I never would have trusted him again and that is no way to have a relationship.  It is very hard being a single parent, but I am happier now than when I was with him.  I thought I was happy then, but I was not.  Anyway my suggestion to you is to read the book "The Secret".  The one that was on Oprah.  It is a great book.  I read it when he first wanted to separate and it really gave me the strength to make a better life for myself.  Also surround yourself with a good support system....you will need it, but remember you will get through it.  One day at a time.  I was finally divorced 2 weeks ago and I still struggle, but at least I am no longer with a cheater.  NO ONE deserves that and neither do you!  Think positively......think positively!!!