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Soon to be ex-husband drives me to tears 

Wow...the past four days have been really hard. I find out stbx is dating and has a possible girlfriend. I am not sure how to deal with that. The fact that he can just leave me and the kids and just got on with his life so easily hurts so darn bad. I have only one close friend the rest he drove away. I feel so all alone and all I can do is cry. How do I get past the hurt and rejection? Does anyone have any suggestions?


by MELMEL    
Posted on 4/29/2008 4:53 PM
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I do understand your pain. My wife has done something similar. Soon after she left the house she started seeing another man. That did not work out so now she is seeing another. I found all this pain out from her parents. When I am working and she has the boys she will leave them with asitter or her relatives and go out of town with him. I have been trying and crying to get her back for the past 4 months. I have decided to quit trying i am drained emotionally. This is the hardest thing I have ever done but now I am finding inner peace and maybe someday she will see what she put me through and be sorry. Just do not give up on yourself. Now you have to focus on your happiness

  by 111
Posted on 5/3/2008 10:21 PM

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The other two ladies are so right about not giving in to the temptation to confide things to your kids about your ex.  My mom would do that to my younger sisters and it really put a strain on their relationship.  And usually it backfires, they'll side with the bad mouthed parent.  It's great you found this website, it'll help you to vent and get advice from others in the same situation.  You might want to try thinking of things you used to enjoy before you got married and make a list.  Then whenever you feel down just pick something to do from the list to lift your spirits.  Join some community classes (like cooking, dance, etc..) to meet new people and make new friends.   I know being busy helps me from wallowing and being depressed all the time.  Whatever you do, try not to lose hope that you will be happy again one day.  At some point in your life this will just be past history.  Good luck!

  by Emeraldsky
Posted on 4/29/2008 9:36 PM

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absolutely don't tell your kids too much of your pain. I think it's ok for them to know that you are hurting but a boundary has to be recognized by you when they are finding out way too much info for their own good. Use this website as an outlet. I know that it has allowed me to learn about coping skills that I didn't know I had in me. Take it one day at a time,don't worry too much about tomorrow, the emotional roller coaster that you're on is going to be long and enduring so you have to brace yourself because there's gonna be a lot of things that will come out of nowhere and you don't need any of it to knock you down. Boy! I don't even know where that came from, coz I'm not having the best past 4-5 days either. A lot can be said for a long hot shower and a little make-up to cheer you up. If all else fails, go shoe shopping!

  by lostintranslation
Posted on 4/29/2008 5:20 PM

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You will have to be strong for your kids. I cannot understand how someone could just up and leave his children but apparently it goes on all the time.
It will be hard but you still need to be there for your kids. Be strong. Try not to turn them against him even though he seems to be a jerk. Find new friends or maybe go find some of your old ones. You need to talk about it but don't use your kids as your counselor. There are many posts on this site to help.
  by mtnvly
Posted on 4/29/2008 4:58 PM

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