Should I Stay or Should I Go?
I had an interesting conversation with a friend today. They were "counseling" a friend of theirs. The lady was clearly in some emotional distress about getting a divorce.
Apparently she's been in a situation in which the husband has been quite controlling and verbally abusive for a number of years. She has stayed, probably many years too many, partly because of her now almost grown daughter.
I'm not an advocate of divorce. However, when I hear of these situations I just cringe. I hear the story, "we stayed together for the kids". I think to myself, what good is it to the kids? Is it really better for the kids to grow up watching an abusive relationship, even if it is only verbal.
Is it really better for your kids to watch you be submissive and not stand up for yourself? Is it really better for your kids if you are emotionally wiped out and barely hanging on?
There are times when marriages can and should be saved. But, if it is clear things are not ever going to change, why would you subject yourself, let alone your kids, to a lifetime of misery. Better to just rip the bandaid off and get it over with.
by
DK-Simoneau
130 Posts
Posted on
10/30/2007 3:28 PM
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