Lately, I’ve been thinking about what a very bad idea it was for me
to hack into the ex-boyfriend’s online profile this summer.
I’ve always considered myself to be the kind of woman who handles break ups well. I am the mature one who moves on, right? Watch him fall apart while I take a deep breath in Downward Dog.
I would never stoop as low as to seek revenge. You’ve read about those heartbroken women who post comments on their ex’s MySpace profiles about their little weenies. (Oh, you weren’t one of them, were you?)
I am so above those juvenile schemes. Or so I thought. Until I found my ex online — and got into his profile to make some itsy-bitsy changes.
What’s the real point of revenge? Does it really make you feel any better?
And what if you get out of control — like doing something illegal — and you get caught? Then what?
We all know that after a break up or divorce, the best thing you can do is forget about him.
Breaking into my ex’s profile didn’t really make me feel any better. Well maybe for five minutes.
In hindsight, I wish I’d had a plan to heal, not to get payback. Please tell me: what can you do to stop thinking about your ex?
I just emailed my single author friend Diane Mapes in Seattle. She’s the author of How To Date in a Post-Dating World, and one of the sassiest women I know.
Diane suggests exercising, like with a “timing” (i.e. punching) bag, because it’s “a great way to work out any anger, stress, or frustration about ex-boyfriends, bad bosses, you name it.”
One of Diane’s friends gave her this super idea: drive around in your car and scream your head off.
Have you ever tried a punching bag? How about screaming in the car (roll up the windows first!)?
What do YOU suggest?
I look forward to hearing what you come up with!
Punching bag courtesy of Anhui Herrman Impex Co., Ltd