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Are You Dating A Divorced Man? Know What You are Getting Into 


 If you are dating a divorced man with children, you need to fully understand what you are getting yourself into. It irks me when women date a divorced man and then complain that their boyfriend is paying too much child support and alimony.

 Give me a break. You have to expect that if your boyfriend has an ex-wife and kids, he must fulfill his financial and parental obligations to his first family. Dating a divorced man is not like dating a man who has never been married before. Many women knowingly date these men and then get upset when he does not have the money or the time to spend on them.

 Any decent man will put his kids first before your relationship. If you are not willing to accept the baggage that comes with dating a divorced man you should date someone who has never been married. Here are few things to expect while dating a divorce man:

1. Unless he is wealthy, he will have less money to spend on dinners out, vacations and other luxuries.

2. He will be spending time with his children. If you want him all to yourself, you are out of luck.

3. He must deal with his ex-wife when it comes to raising his children. You need to accept her as part of his life and get over your resentment.

Finally, if you plan on marrying a divorced man and want to have children, do not complain that there will be less money for your household because he pays child support. You knew about his obligations to his children before you married him. Also be aware that you will have a whole new set of issues with step children. There is nothing wrong with dating a divorced man and you can have a wonderful relationship, if you go into it with your eye wide open and know what to expect.
by Christina-Rowe  245 Posts 

Posted on 4/27/2008 1:50 AM
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Comments for "Are You Dating A Divorced Man? Know What You are Getting Into"  (4) (You must be logged in to answer)




Well my ex's girlfriend definitely doesn't need to be mad about the spending time with kids part--becuz my ex no longer gets them for visitation anymore.  After he moved in with the tramp he no longer picks them up for weekend visits, instead he comes during the week (every other week) takes them out to dinner and spends a whole hour with them--dad of the freakin' year!! NOT!!  So the only thing she can bitch about is the no money thing--becuz he's paying support and after I get thru with him on the sale of this house--he'll be taking the loss on our house to which will leave him in the hole big time and gee--do ya think she'll want to pay to get him out of debt!!  Don't think so!! Better luck to her, becuz I'm glad I'm thru with his sorry ass, just wish I was done with him forever!! They both cheated on their spouses to be together and now they are --so more power to them!!
by freedom   455 Posts
Posted on 11/13/2008 10:26 PM
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I am a divorced mother of three, dating a divorced man of two. My ex pays and is soon to be remarried. So far things seem ok. The new STBW is very kind to my children and almost has my ex being a better father......My bf's ex is something else. I am an ex so I know the routine...I figure treat others how you want to be treated and always place the kids first. This women just flies off the handle out of nowhere continues to say she wants full(they have 50/50)custody and support. She is emotionally driven and always starts a fight near the holidays....My bf is a good man but the psyco stuff gets old.....
by mic   5 Posts
Posted on 11/13/2008 1:36 PM
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