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surviving domestic violence 

i've been seperated for about 3 months now and my ex has tried everything from suicide threats to asking for bj's in order to take our son....living in this madness on a day to day basis has truly made me search deep inside my soul for survival...i give thanks that i have  seen my ex's true colors and also glad that i made the decision to move on and stay away from him (son also)  i have a order for protection on him and he violated it twice so now the state is charging him...i give this all to God...i cannot control what happens, i live with guilt watching my son suffer through this even though as his mother i need to protect him.  as an 8 year old he does not understand but is definitely aware of his father's actions.  the rejection, loss, guilt, can take a hard toll on the mind and body.  how does one heal?....time?....new direction?....i always try to stay positive but sometimes curling up in a ball in bed with my blankee sounds wonderful. 
by silverlining  12 Posts 

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Are there any Canidian women who got through this mess with thier Kids and the ability to work.
by DFL   2 Posts
Posted on 10/10/2008 8:36 PM
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All that matters is the health and well being of you and your son. its hard to let children witness the harsh realities of life so all we can so is become the most supportive people in their lives. children appreciate honesty. personally i never had to deal with anything like that, just the mental abuse & manipulation. I find that every little thing I do to better myself makes it easier for me to feel at ease with my babies. for me step one was attemping weight-loss(still in progress) organization completed and now I am going to tackle going back to school. I want my children to see me as successful as I can be. :)
by angel329   15 Posts
Posted on 4/20/2008 8:10 PM
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Sometimes it becomes too much for me sometimes also....and although I know I can't stay 'hidden' for the rest of my life, I know that my mind and body have been put through the ringer.  Instead of fighting the urge to just let it all go for a little while and rest, I've decided to try a new ploy - and let my body tell me when I've had enough.  I'm sleeping a little more now....not a lot, but more than I was....and I know I'm sharper because of this must-needed rest.  It's only a baby step - and I'm not sure what I'm trying will be something that will work for you, but I've received a lot of good advice from this site in the short time I've been here....and if my 'tricks' don't do it for you, perhaps you'll find comfort and strength from what others here have to offer.

The one thing that's become very clear to me since joining divorce360 is that everyone here is  trying to get a semblance of their lives back - in whatever way they can....and that's a vast improvement over doing nothing.  I recently read somewhere that talking leads to action, and action leads to healing.  Rather simplistic, I admit....but there's also some logic and truth here as well.

Time seems to be the catalyst for everything....including healing.  I'm glad you're here to share your experiences, and I hope you are able to get some good advice, perhaps make a few friends, and know that you are not alone in your struggles.  You have a lot of company....(:

Have a good weekend....smile.
by sdchargers13   98 Posts
Posted on 4/19/2008 4:24 PM
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