My former passed an important exam this week, one that he had been studying for while he was having an affair.  He failed it then and had to was a few months before he could take it again this month.  He shared his good news with his newbie and her family.  He hasn't even told his children or me.  I thought it would be something he would at least drop an email to share that he did pass his exam and would now be able to go back to work.  I was always there for him, always.  It hurts that something so important is only being shared with the new people in his life and not the ones who have always held him up, prayed for him, loved him.  I decided to drop him a 2-line  email to let him know I was relieved that this burden had been lifted from him. Right thing to do?  I don't know.  I am very glad that he is able to get a job again to go on with his life because that's what I'm doing, but I am sad that something that was so much a part of our lives doesn't even rate a two word email  - I passed.
     Okay, it's time to get over it Cathy.  You are much happier when you've had no contact with him but here you are wondering WHY he didn't contact you.  You now know that he's passed his exam so be happy about it no matter how you found out.  Move on.  Think of it this way.  The sooner he gets a job, the sooner you'll start getting some alimony, the sooner your life will be a little better financially.  It's a GOOD THING!  So snap out if it, change your freakin' attitude.  Do what you daughter tells you to do.  PUT YOU BIG GIRL PANTIES ON AND JUST DEAL WITH IT!  Thank God for wonderful, understanding, daughters.  Okay daughter, I need a Pina Colada.  I know, I know - just one.  I hear you!