Cant' stop looking..A breakthrough 

I exceeded 2000 characters! Oops! God is with you for sure and I am sure he has assigned a guardian angel to look over your shoulder, in other words, your angel has got your back! You have survived a lot, you will survive this too. Keep prayer foremost in your day. God does hear and answers, we just need to keep our eyes and ears open to hear his response. As Jesus told us to pray, let thy will be done! (Our will is often flawed! At least mine has been!) Peace be with you always!

Wow, I hope you aren't beating up on yourself for his poor lack of judgement. My ex wife left me in pretty much the same way. I went to work in the morning as a loving husband and father. When I came home from work, it was to a house that was empty and a process server waiting in my driveway. It is incredible what we as people will do to hurt one another. The most difficult thing to do is to take the high road. Revenge is poisionous and only kills everything it touches. I could have sought to hurt her, as much as I was hurt, but I chose not to. It ended up disproving all the harmful things she claimed about me. Hold your head high and be strong, knowing that when you do what is right, God is with you. The more and longer you do the right thing, the more you feel God's presence and it is a great feeling! Also there is nothing that can be used against you. I will admit I tried a couple of the Internet dating sites after a couple of months being alone after my ex wife's sudden departure. If you like cheap meaningless flings then it is great. Just do not expect that he will find the love of his life there. There are lots of people on those sites that respond "not interested" or "met someone" but keep their profiles up for months, why? I quit my profiles right away, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to see through that game! It is a good thing that you can not stop looking, let's you know the real truth. What is hard is what my ex wife is doing, she has a relationship going on with someone she is working with and being in management it can be kept behind closed doors. The thing is that everyone around her is keeping her secret, even my daughters. Since they do that, I do not get much time with them, they always seem to have things going on. The court even scolded my ex wife for the lack of following her own parenting plan, the reason is, I am sure, that if they spent any reasonable amount of time with me, the secret might slip out. Although it must be humiliating to go through a public deception as you are with the MySpace posting, and such, at least it is in the open

Wow!  Amazing what can happen sometimes, huh?  :)

I certainly hope that you both can go to counseling together and see if this can be salvaged, because you certainly seem to be someone who truly does want to work through this and be married to this man.

Bravo and Good Luck!