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Trapped 

Another rough night and not much sleep. I finally made up my mind to move on now reality is setting in. If I do this I'm afraid financially I am ruined. If I were 35 or 40 I could probably recover but at 49 it is looking pretty bleak.
I'm finding out that I will have to pay maintenance to my wife for the rest of my life and I'll probably lose custody of the kids so I'll be paying child support. We are already in massive debt and then add in the cost of lawyers and when this is all said and done I won't even be able to afford a 1 bedroom apartment.  I will be retiring from my current job in 6 years and half of my annuity will go to my wife. I'll be working and strapped for money until the day I die.
All of this frustrates me and makes me very angry. My wife chooses to not take care of herself. She chose to distance herself from me. She doesn't support me. She doesn't even think or care about my needs and wants. I haven't had any romance in over 10 years and for putting up with all of this I get to pay her??? For the rest of my life??? That's my reward for the sacrifices I made?
I'm so discouraged right now. I have a very bad feeling that I'm trapped here and there is no way out. How am I going to live the rest of my life without any romance, passion, caring, or love?
by RichBrewer  214 Posts 

Posted on 4/12/2008 10:33 AM 		Get AlertsGet Alerts!
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Your future sounds bleak, but she can't ruin your life, the courts won't let it and if they did, you could still take control of your life by other means.  Do a google search and get some ideas.  I've read stories about people who go crazy because their future life is destroyed and go on to do irrational acts that only hurt their family, future finances, and even go as far to seek out others involved.  Whew, I just got a shiver thinking about what you face moving forward.  If it were me I would just call it a day and head to another country, maybe jgo oin a tribe in africa.
by triguyfl   31 Posts
Posted on 4/14/2008 9:16 PM
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Rich
What state do you live?  Is this a "done deal" as far as the support issue?  How many years were you married?  I know the guidelines are different based upon the state in which you live.  It is unusual that she would be awarded that.  PLEASE see another attorney.  See five if you need to - do a google search for your state's findings in family court in regards to this.  You can find the rulings pretty easy.
YES!  Congrats on your amazing weight loss.
One final thought Rich ---- You write the following --- "How am I going to live the rest of my life without any romance, passion, caring, or love?"  Do you think because your marriage ended?  Because you judge you will have nothing to "offer" someone in the way of finances?  They are not mutually exclusive.  You may find all of that and more.
I think a lot of have those fears. 
BEST wishes!
by Mb   266 Posts
Posted on 4/14/2008 9:05 PM