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sad again today 

this past week i have been very sad....at the loss of the family unit i have always wanted. not for the loss of my husband....but for the mommy and daddy and the 2 girls picture.  is that so bad?  he is a cheater and obviously not the man i need in my life.  I hope someday i will find a man who values family and me first....work second.  family is the most important thing to me..without that I have nothing.  everyone says..try for the kids sake.  im divorcing for the kids sake.  my girls need to know what a loving relationship is...not the way we have been living.  i cant even look at my husband anymore.  maybe a few months ago my husband actually hugged me...cant remember when it happened before that..but nayway..my daughter looked up at my and asked...'daddy..why are you huggin mommy?"  how sad is that????  that right there broke my heart.  they need to know better than that.  maybe someone will read this entry and realize that divorce is sometimes better for the children inthe end.  kids must see love to know how it is between a man and a woman.  my belief.  someday i will have the person i was meant to be with.  till then ;-)
by nichole  19 Posts 
Posted on 4/11/2008 11:45 PM
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I can't look at my wife anymore either. It disgusts me to know that she has such little respect for our 2 boys and me just to talk to another man. I'm so sorry you are going through this, but you will be sooo much better off with out his sorry stinking butt. good for you for being strong and courageous.
your girls are lucky to have u.
by seperatedman   2 Posts
Posted on 4/12/2008 5:34 PM
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I did forget one thing.  The unhappiness will deminish with time.  It took me about a year before I was ready to even consider dating again.  I took time for me, I had to heal from the deciet, the lies, the cheating, and the other things he put me through.  I speak from experience.  Don't go out just because others think you should.  Don't allow yourself to be pressured into going out either.  And, in case you are wondering,  I even went and seen a marriage counselor after I left my ex.   Yup...went by myself, for myself.  Don't be embarrassed to go.  It will be good for and your kids.  Again, I speak from experience.  You will have some good days, and they will take you by surprise.  And you will some bad days when you feel sad.  It's all normal.   Eventually, one day, you will realize that you haven't felt sad for several weeks.  You will start to smile more, laugh more, but let it come naturally.  Don't force anything and don't rush anything. And you will still have a family.  Your kids....husbands are a dime a dozen.  You can always find another husband, in time.  But you can never replace your kids.  Eventually you will meet someone who will care for you and your kids the way you need, want, and deserve.   Just take it slow.  Enjoy the kids.  Make a new home and new traditions.  Make this a new start and redecorate things.  Let the girls help.  Ask for their ideas.  It will help all of you.  Good luck to the 3 of you.  I know it's not easy.  I know it's easier said than done.  Like I said, been there, done that.   I've been through a lot more than I'm posting on here, but I made it.  My kids made it.  And that's what's important.
by intolerant   3 Posts
Posted on 4/12/2008 4:35 PM
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Never, Never, Never, stay in a bad relationship for the sake of the kids.  I have been married and divorced.  My kids father cheated.   I never put my kids in the middle of anything that was going on, though their father tried.  That didn't last long, I put a stop to that real quick.  Now I'm involved in my daugher's life and relationship problems.  At her request.  I'm only there to listen to her rant and rave as well as to run and rescue our 3 1/2  year old grandson from the chaos on a moments notice.  Such as today when she called me and was very upset and her ex- boyfriend was over there causing a scene in front of their son.  Oh, I remarried.  4 years ago this August.  My kids are all in their 30's.    As for our grandson, he's a bright little boy.  But sometimes he doesn't want to go home to his mother and he doesn't like going to his dad's house.  He keeps telling me these things, yet there is limited things I can do.  He knows he safe when he's here.  He knows I'll do everything I can to protect him when he's here.  But it broke my heart to have to tell him that he has to go to his father's house, because mommy says so.  He looked so unhappy.  So, whatever you do, leave, make a clean break,  be there for your kids, put them first and never let anyone put those kids in the middle of things.   And don't stay just because everyone thinks you should.  It's your life, the kid's lifes and they deserve peace and happiness.
by intolerant   3 Posts
Posted on 4/12/2008 4:22 PM