Again..this whole thing is driving me crazy.
How can any one person be so intent on controlling someones every move?
My new issue?
My boyfriends soon to be ex...is such a control freak. She vowed to punish him the rest of his life and is h*^% bent on doing it. He has always paid his child support . He has always paid her for half of extra expenses for his children. She has "sole custody with visitation at her discretion", which in her eyes means that if she calls him he should run. She keeps the kids away when she is mad and tells the children that he does not want to see them. THEN she calls him and lays a guilt trip on him for not picking them up. She changes the schedule. He can make no plans because  if he does then she  " calls" him  and won't let him see the kids the next time because she is angry. It has been a cycle since seperation.
Now he has another job which is more flexible and can spend more time with the kids, she expects him to run at her every beck and call. It is absolutley ridiculous. Now don't get me wrong, I am not speaking of sporting events etc or if they needed to go to the dentist or something. Todays example... she called him last week to say that their middle child was "exempt " from a class in school and he needed a ride to school late( around 10am.)She told him this was Monday( yesterday). He asked his son about it Sunday night and he knew nothing about it. He gets a text from his son last night that he needed a ride today. She had the dates wrong. A little more questioning revealed that she did not want the son to be involved in Science class ( my guess is the topic was evolution) so she pulled him out.
Now ...my boyfriend had an eye dr appt over an hour away but arranged a ride for the child.
This is ridiculous! He doesn't have a problem with the class but she does. He has to rearrange his schedule to suit her. If he hadn't then she would get ticked off and not allow visitation. Had it been reversed no compromise would have been made on her part.
 He got the kids cell phones so that they can call him 24/7. They are on a different plan so calls from her use their minutes. When asked to keep them to a minimum she went off. No cooperation. She thinks that she has to be in control of everything.
These are only 2 incidents of 1000 since we have been seeing each other. Prime control , manipulatin and down right hatred. The funny this is ...is that is the exact reason they are not together. That this woman is a 'Christian". She can't see the effect on the children. I just can't stop shaking my head.
So reconciliation is not an option because she will not stop.
So there you have it.