TJ1, hang in there. Most all of us have been where you are. Thinking things were ok, the one day WTF? I think in time you'll find it really isn't you. It's just a bad blend of personalities. I think in that, she's right. I'm just so sorry it came to this point for her to figure it out. I'm also sorry she doesn't want to work on it. It can feel so helpless to be where you are. Especially since she's branded you as "needy." now, anything you try to do to dispute that will only prove that you are needy in her eyes. Well, anything except leaving her alone. And that's what I would do. But even if you are the type of person who likes to spend time around your partner, that's not a bad thing, no matter what you wife says. Some women like that. You just need to find a better match for you, but that comes later. Right now work on getting through this phase. It's not the happiest thing, but you can pull through, and find yourself a stronger person and a better partner for whoever is in your future. Hang in there my friend.