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Should Lifetime Alimony Be Banned? 

"Mass Alimony Reform" will address the Joint Committee of the Judiciary in Massachusetts and challenge the current laws on the books that allow for lifetime alimony. It is interesting to note that the majority of the residents that are scheduled to address the committee regarding alimony reform are women. They are the second wives of husbands who once divorced.


These women feel that they are forced to "share the expense of providing living and other expenses for their present husband's first wives who are unwilling to support themselves".

This is unbelievable. Did these women know when they married their husbands that their husband had to make alimony payments? Now they are upset that they have to "share"their husband's income with the first wife? Give me a break, did these women ever stop to think that maybe the first wife was awarded lifetime alimony for a reason?


Lifetime alimony is usually awarded in most states when a marriage is over 20 years in length and the spouse receiving the alimony was either a stay at home parent during the marriage or made a significantly lower income than their spouse. Does staying at home raising children and giving up your career not count for financial compensation after a divorce? The women who gave up careers to raise families while their husbands advanced in their careers are at a great disadvantage after divorce. That is why we have alimony.

When you date and marry a divorced man you should know what you are getting into. It irks me when the "new" wife gets upset that her husband has to support the first family he created. You cannot expect to marry a man who has financial obligations to his ex-wife and children and not feel the financial repercussions on your own family. If a man who has been ordered by the court to pay alimony to his ex-wife cannot afford to due so, he has no business getting married again and starting a new family.



by Christina-Rowe    
Posted on 1/24/2008 9:55 AM
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Your journal entry is very short sited. The lifetime alimony rules only mandate that one of the spouses continue contributing. Many ex-spouses (both women and men) are forced to work and pay alimony for life when the stay at home spouse is literally granted retirement.
At the end of a 20 year marriage, the non-earning spouse is typically only in their 40's. There needs to be a mandate that that spouse make an effort to provide as much self support as they can. In my case, my ex took the tax returns to her attorney and asked "how much will he have to pay me"? She could have worked during marriage but did not have too. She was 45 years old and perfectly capable. But because I provided for her when we were married, she had no obligation to do anything. I am forced to give her half of my take home pay.
Divorce should mean divorce, not retirement! If you don't want to be married to the bread winner anymore, then you leave with half of the assets and temporary support. A fair amount of rehabilatative alimony should be provided. The bill filed in MA (petition 1567) asks for half of the duration of the marriage with reductions begining after 6 years.
The lifetime alimony rules encourage divorce when time should be spent saving the marriage. A spouse would say "I can get half the income without providing any spousal support at all? Why would someone not want that? It's free income." If the alternative to divorce is re-entering the work force and suppoting yourself, there would be much more thought behind working out the problems and fixing the relationship.
I was married for 17 years. I gave my wife the option of working or staying home. She stayed home while I worked 2 full time jobs. I had a financial plan. She wanted no part of it. I saved money for retirement, kids college, paid all the bills, helped with housework and still help pay my step daughters college loan. She got all the perks with no obligations.

Rethink you position. You simply don't get i
by workingforever  1 Post
Posted on 6/18/2008 3:47 PM
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I agree, the question I have is that I've been informed that I am not allow to save any money since I receive alimony. What am I suppose to do when the  alimony ends?
by vc  1 Post
Posted on 4/19/2008 12:55 AM
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Agreed & well said!
by jesszula  255 Posts
Posted on 1/24/2008 9:58 AM
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