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4 days ago 

4 days ago I left my wife of 18 years. She and I have been to gether for 23 years total. It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life! We have 2 beautiful kids 6 & 13 and my heart feels like it is being hit with a hammer every minute of the day. 6 is not really understanding but 13 I just don't know? Oh god help them understand help them not hate me!!!!! 
I was not abusive or mean to my wife. For 2 or 3 years all I have wanted to do is leave. I have not felt loved or wanted or needed. I just felt like I was there for the kids and nothing else matters. What I wanted. What I say. What I did or was doing. My goals. My dreams. and on -- and on -- and on --. I would sit there in the house day after day wondering why I was there. I would look at her wish she was not.
I just feel my love for her is gone. I care for her but do not love her.
She ask for counceling but I just don't want to all I want is out.
The Kids were the only thing keeping me there and I started resenting her for that.
I don't want to hate her!!
I want her to be Happy !!
4 days ago I changed our lives.
Please pray for us and my Kids!
by dmlj08  4 Posts 
Posted on 1/19/2008 11:16 PM
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Of course I will! And I'm not a supporter of divorce, but I am a supporter of the family. You do what you have to do for them. The reality is, it sounds like it's better for your family to have a happy father than a married one. If your miserable, it will only bleed into your relationship and pool there and fester. THat's no good for anybody. Only you know if your decision was the right one, and above all else, I pray for God's wisdom for you in this.
by Robert-Boyd   2672 Posts
Posted on 1/20/2008 4:10 PM
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DM it took me 3 years to leave. My situation was different but still I had to leave. I asked for strength and guidance. I went to church. I prayed. And then one day it just hit me - how was I making my children happy? Teaching them what? To be in a relationship without love and to stick it out because of them. There was no other man for me, there was no greener grass, no family to help me on the other side. I just left my marriage with my kids in tow. I deserved better and most importantly they did too. You don't stop being a good parent after divorce. On the contrary, you become a better one because after you divorce ypu have time for your children - your heart softens, your mind frees up, your eyes are clearer and suddently your lips part to create a smile. I'll light a candle tonight and pray that you find the strength within yourself to deal with this situation. Remember you walked out on being a husband but not on being a father - your kids need you. Good luck!
by SuYin   251 Posts
Posted on 1/20/2008 7:45 AM
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I do pray for you, I hope you can work things out in a good honest and heartfelt way. You have the courage i am trying to gain trying to work myself up to that point i don't want to hurt anymore but i don't want to be hurt by the person that means the most to me i would do anything for him and so that leave me like yourself in that state of what to do now how to go on and live like you need to like you want to like you deserve to as a husband or in my case a wife good luck.
by sljakeway   14 Posts
Posted on 1/20/2008 1:35 AM
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