Dear Broken-Hearted Girl, If it’s been over a year since your break up, then you’re probably making a fabulous transition into a single, sexy, healthy woman...or you’re making excuses.

For those of you who aren’t moving forward, get off your "excuse" and get back into your own skin! Don’t kid yourself, getting over someone IS a lot of hard work. But some people avoid the work and go straight to faking it.

Think about it. Do you do any of these things to fake your way into thinking you're over him? :
 
You put on a fake smile and go dancing with your girlfriends, only to rush home and cry your eyes out later. 

You call into work and fake sick so you can stay home and wallow in your depression. 

You call him and hang up just to hear his voice.

You make out with or sleep with men that you do not want to be with because you think doing so will help you get over your ex.

Making excuses can help you avoid healing your soul. You must find a way to face the fact that the relationship is over. You must find a way to fill the holes in your heart -- on your own. You must realize that you are a beautiful woman who deserves to love and be loved in return.

If you’ve been faking it, consider these options: -- Talk to a friend or family member about how you’re REALLY feeling. -- Visit a therapist if you think you need one. -- If you’re depressed, talk to your doctor who can prescribe some medication to help. -- Get in touch with your spirit; through church, yoga, nature or temple. Find something that makes you realize that the world is bigger than you. Stop making excuses. Begin the work to truly get over your ex and move on honestly with your life.