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Should have been 6 year anniversary today.... 

Well today should have been my 6 year wedding anniversary, but instead I am 5 1/2 months post divorce.  I have moved forward in my life, but it is days like this that bring back the memories....the what ifs....the supposed to bes.  To make things worse my oldest told me today that their dad took both kids and the girlfriend (the one whom he cheated on me with) to see their new house where they are moving into in 2 weeks.  It was sickening to think he choose today to do that.  Actually the more I think about it he probably does not even realize what today is...he has probably forgetten the date already.  Anyway it just stinks again to see him moving forward so quickly, but in my heart I know that I am doing well.  I am currently with a wonderful man and we are starting to really mesh our lives.  He has a son himself so one day in the future we know we will be the Brady Bunch.  Unlike my ex, my boyfriend and I are taking things slow to ensure we do it right and do what is best for our children as that is what is most important to us.  It just stinks to once in a while be reminded of my marriage that no longer is....to still miss my family unit (don't miss my ex though)...just the family unit.  So when do the times stop that you dont think it is this many months out, or this many years it would have been, etc ????  How long does that take to stop???
by JLK  303 Posts 

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Comments for "Should have been 6 year anniversary today...."  (3) (You must be logged in to answer)
Here's a possibility: 

-write a list of all your ex's faults.  (I would think the first item would be that he cheated.)  See how many things you come up with

-get a massage or a facial or a manicure or a pedicure, or all of the above.  Hell get a makeover. 

-write a list of how your new guy is much better than your ex. 
-look at yourself once the makeover is done and then burn the list of all of your ex's faults. 

I think I'm going to write the list just because.  I have a facial scheduled on Tuesday the 23rd.  Everyday I look in the mirror and remind myself that per my ex, I am FAT!!!  Not PHAT but FAT!!!!  Let me emphasize, I'm a size 2 - I am fat.
by purebredinip   368 Posts
Posted on 9/21/2008 6:15 PM
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There will always be those memories they just won't be as painful as they are now, I too still turn up things that are here of his, today, he texted me to return his jacket that is upstairs and asked that I mail it to him.  I'm not mailing it, he can wait until the 10th and pick it up at the lawyers when we go to court.  A few months ago I would have been concerned because he wouldn't have a coat for when it was cold, but after what he did to me today, there is no reason I should care.  Keep taking things slow with your new main squeeze and to answer your question, yes, I think he knows what today is, that's why he did it, to erase what it was suppose to be and make it something that he wanted to remember, the new house with the new love and the kids to see and tell mom when they get home, because they were going to tell you and he knew it.  Keep being strong and keep that head up.  Hugs
by Departed   358 Posts
Posted on 9/21/2008 5:22 PM
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JLK
I'm a little over 8 months divorced and I still get those days. I am doing well now too. I have been cleaning house today and that means I am still turning up stuff of his. Like you I don't miss "him again" but I do miss what little family unit we had. The illusion of almost having that dream. We were real close to having everything we had worked for. And he threw it all away.
I can't tell you how long it will take. It's different for everyone. I'm just trusting that it will take more time like everyone else on here says.
You take care
by trisha9054   1915 Posts
Posted on 9/21/2008 4:37 PM
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