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Yet Another Of The Talks That I Hope To Give My Daughter 

Hey, all! Yes, I know, it's been quite a while.

 

I could probably type until my fingers were sore on what I've been doing lately, since I was such a regular blogger and all for such a long time, but I won't. Not because it's boring (it isn't), but it's late, and I'm a bit tired, a bit sick, and a bit blue. But only a bit.

The thing that I forgot, though, was that writing always helps, and so, lo, again I'm here to write to you all, apologizing for my long absence from blogging. Hope that you all are doing well!

 

Here we are, in the midst of the American Silly Season (others might call it Election Year), and I've been spending a lot of time with the 4 year old, Grace, to whom this blog is dedicated. It's been a trying year, but one of change, and that is, I think, a good thing. But my thoughts turned to post that I wrote quite a while ago called One Of The Talks That I Hope To Give My Daughter and, by jove, I think I have another one.

That post was about drugs. This one is about a topic just as dangerous: relationships.  It's perfect for divorce360.

 

Being that I'm a single dad, one might surmise, correctly, that my luck with women has not been the best. But, as this man approaches 40, I'm beginning to catch a whiff of what might be a working theory. I'm pretty sure that it would work for women, too.

It would go something like this, I think:

 

"Grace, you're getting older now, and I'm sure that you'll want to date, if you haven't already. Most of those you might not even tell me about. I hope that you do, but you might not. Before you do, though, let me give you a little advice from an old dad who has been dating for a while."

"You're going to meet a lot of people. Some of them will like you for who you are, and some, compulsively, will try to change you. Of those two types, realize that once you realize who you are, and you probably haven't yet, you won't change too much. You might pick up or lose a habit; you might gain or lose an interest. Fine. But the whole of you, the person that is you, won't change, so finding someone that you have something important in common with might be...big."

 

"But that isn't the lesson."

 

"The real lesson is to try to not be that person who tries to change the other. That path will not make you happy, and I doubt that it will make the other person happy. Be the best person that you can be, care about the one that you love, respect the relationship that you have, never be afraid to have communication with that person, but be ready to drop and run if you have to."

"Grow together, improve together, encourage each other, and share everything. EVERYTHING. From the dash of your hairspray, to the bills in the mail, to the joys in your lives. Share it and relish it all. Because, Gracie, if you don't share it all, the good and the bad, the ugly and the beautiful, you'll have secrets, and you will not be a couple. You might be a relationship, but not a couple. In the end, that will probably not make you happy, when your being happy is the only wish that I will ever have for you."

 

I think, think that is what I might say.

 

I don't know, though. Seems a bit long winded. What do you think?

by Adrian-Clark  67 Posts 

Posted on 9/18/2008 11:39 PM
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purebredinip, thanks for saying so!

ah, if we knew then what we know now, eh?
by Adrian-Clark   67 Posts
Posted on 9/25/2008 12:42 PM
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When speaking to children I don't think anything is long winded.  It's a great message. 

It all makes sense.  If only we all could have had that talk prior to getting married.
by purebredinip   368 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 9:51 AM