Who needs Disneyland? Come take a ride thru SuYin’s Magical World of Madness 

It seems that I have been on an emotional rollercoaster for the last few weeks; one that isn’t just about my emotions but about other’s emotions as well.  Take a ride with me:

First Stop – Mr. Ex:

After the last episode we had (in which he refused to let me see the kids during his weekend), our relationship went from cordial to absolute venomous hate.  We are back to where we started long ago.  I thought we had come a long way but as it turns out we have just turn ourselves back around and are back to Step 1 – The Hate-You Phase.  Mr. & Mrs. Ex have decided that it is unscrupulous of me to live with Mr. Boyfriend without being married because I am setting a bad example for “our” children.  Yes, Mrs. Ex, is now referring to them as “our” children.  Apparently, according to Mr. Ex, the kids have asked them a lot of questions about being married, having babies, etc.  This comes as no surprise to me since Mr. Ex just got married.  However, to the Ex’s this means that I am confusing the kids.  Here is the thing:  I have full custody of the kids.  So I really do not have to listen to anything Mr. Ex has to say because he has no say in this situation.  Which brings me to the next fight:  He now wants to go back to court to adjust that custody.  Well, it isn’t going to be that easy because I am not willing to give up custody.  You see, the reason I have full custody of the kids is because Mr. Ex was abusive – physically, emotionally, and verbally.  Just to me, not to the kids.  But he was abusive enough to warrant the court to give me full custody.  He had other pesky little problems that I won’t go into here.  Sure, he was in counseling, went through all the programs, etc. but I wrote down every little thing he did, kept every note he left, and took photographs of every bruise I had.  I went to see my lawyer and she told me not to worry about his threats that they were probably just that – threats.  So, I’m not going to worry about it but I do have her on my speed-dial just in case.  Here’s the big issue – Mr. Ex hasn’t told Mrs. Ex about all his problems and the real reason why I left him.  He has told Mrs. Ex that I left because I was an unhappy, miserable, ungrateful B*tch (I know this because Mrs. Ex told a friend this and it got back to me).  Which is fine – I don’t really care what she thinks but if Mr. Ex wants to fight me for the kids, then I say – bring it on. I’m not the one with skeletons in my closet.  So we’ll see where he goes with this.  I can’t talk to him because every time we attempts (twice already) to have a conversation, it ends up in a screaming match.

Second Stop – The Lover (my friend, the adulterer)

The wife received a package at her job.  The package contained emails.  Emails between The Lover and The Mistress.  And to top it all off, he’s surprised!  So, the Wife called me and asked me if I knew anything about this.  I told her I did not – I know, I lied.  She came over crying, showed me the emails.  I couldn’t do it.  I couldn’t say anything.  I just told her that I was sorry.  She said she was going to confront The Mistress.  I told her that she needed to confront her husband, the cheater.  She was surprised by my answer.  I am of the mindset that when a man cheats on his wife, the wife should confront the husband.  He is the one who went back on those vows.  The Mistress is not an innocent party, of course, she knew that he was married.  In my opinion the guilt lies on the husband.  The Mistress carries her own guilt and she will face that on her own time.  She disagreed with me and said that The Mistress was a seducer.  I can see that this is a situation that will be resolved by The Wife forgiving The Husband.  She bid me goodbye and told me she would be going to speak to “that other woman”.  I did not call my friend to let him know that she had been to my house.  I just didn’t want to get involved.  So, I didn’t say anything.  That came back to bite me.  He is NOW upset with me because I didn’t warn him.  In these situations, the outsiders can’t win….

Third & Final Stop:  The Boyfriend’s Ex (this is actually very funny)

She is upset with me because I am reading books to the kids about my culture.  Yes, you heard that right.  She said I am confusing the kids. Why? Because they go to Catholic school!  I am assuming that she thinks that the Chinese are all Buddhist?  I haven't responded to that.  Want to help me?

There you have it… a trip around SuYin’s Magical World of Madness