I was just curious to know if any of you out there already divorced, with children, have a 'civil' relationship with your exes?
When I say civil, I mean how do you do your best to hold your composure with the ex especially when your kids are around? For those of us who actually have exes which we may now consider as "post-divorce alien life-forms," how do you cope? What do you do to get through the day, the visitations or shared custody thing?
I myself was married to a legend-in-his-own-mind, super, control-freak! I'm talking, this man actually believes that I was conceived, born and raised on this Earth for the sole purpose of meeting, marrying and serving him! We are divorced now and my 'bitter' half thinks he can still tell me how to live my freakin' life. He is always jabbing little digs here and there. Especially pertaining to my personal life.
You see, unlike him, I have not allowed myself to settle for another sack of shit heading my way. I have remained single and celibate since our divorce in 2003. (Well, the celibate part preceded our divorce. He was humping everything with a hole, from what I am meant to understand. Possibly even uncovered light sockets, but he wasn't doin' me.)
Anyhow...he can't let a chance go by without having some smart-ass thing to say about me not having a relationship or sex life. Now I am no saint mind you, but I have to chuckle on the inside because, this man thinks he knows who I am. (He didn't know me the 15 years we were married, and now he pressumes to think he knows me as an ex wife?)
If he catches me using a stern tone with my children, it's because I'm sexually frustrated! If I use the f word because I just banged my big toe on my little boy's monster Tonka truck, I'm sexually frustrated! Not having the winning combination of Lotto numbers and bitching about it, I'm sexually frustrated! WTF! The man's a loon.
I just want to smack the crap out of him! I can't tell you how many times I have calmly whispered under my breath; "Shut the f up you delusional, hoe chasing, pig!" It sounds even better when I say it in Latin. I just look at him for the ignorant soul he is and will always be.
You know it's about closure, healing, having a clear head to see what the future holds. I endured 15 years of mistreatment. I never want to have to travel that road again. He just doesn't understand this because his immoral life has not changed one bit. He is still a whoremonger. (Don't you just love that word?) He has not learned from his mistakes.
We have 3 kids together. Two sons ages 12 and 9 and a teen daughter age 17. Now, living in this world with the corrupt things that assaults our senses 24/7, I have managed to raise a chaste daughter! I say this not to brag, but to her credit and her free will, she has chosen to save herself for true love and marriage. She came to me and said that she was terrified and afraid of pregnancy, disease, shame and she's not looking to go down that road as a teen.
The endearing part is when she added; "Sex is not an issue for me. I want to be like you." It didn't kick in at first, but then I realized that my child is using me as a role model. I will not allow myself to become a human mattress for anyone and my child sees this. How can young girls behave in a moral and decent fashion, if 'Mommy' is out at the club, droppin' it like it's hot and turning her bedroom into a 3-ring circus with everyman who comes along?
So a note to my ex...I am not sexually frustrated. I am sexually liberated! I choose to live a decent life. For myself and my kids. You read too many stories about mama's boyfriends coming after the kids. Beating their little boys, sexually assaulting their teen daughters. I am not willing to take that risk. How unfortunate that my ex cannot see that I am making it my business to 'protect our children'.
It's a shame when you are blinded by your own penis. If he would just stop standing there with his dick in his hand, he could probably focus a little bit better! Peace!