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You will love this one! 

So, my STBX wants to go away for the weekend with our 9 year old son.  It's my 40th birthday, but she says she doesn't have any money but really wants to spend my birthday with me.  So guess what! The Sucker (me) goes away, we have a great time, she's flirty with me, etc etc.  When we get back, I ask her if she'd like to continue counseling and try to reconcile the divorce.  She says " what do you mean? I have every intention of going through with the divorce. I never said anything to the contrary!"

 

Now, we meet at a neutral spot to exchange our son. She hates that.  I'm now contesting the divorce agreement of parenting time because she wants to come to all my sons' extracurricular activities even when it's on my parenting time.  She also told me she only went to therapy with me because she wanted me to know it was mostly my fault. 

 

Her best line to me the whole time has been "I want a divorce now, but I really see being married to you again in the future" and I fell for it, but no more.

 

Please...I love my son, this is killing me, but don't end up being a sucker.  Anyone ever have the 'future' line used on you?  Please let me know what you think!

by HurtInColorado  37 Posts 

Posted on 9/2/2008 9:30 PM
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Women are great at having their emotional-selves ready when it comes to a divorce. Sure it goes the other way from time to time, but most of the time women are so ready for a divorce and the man is not. That's why the almost always have the upper hand during the process.
by Vincent   21 Posts
Posted on 9/5/2008 1:50 PM
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I am sorry you have been manipulated emotionally.  My ex started 2 1/2 yrs befor the divorce with "We need a settlement."  I asked if he wanted a divorce.  No, just a settlement.  This went off and on for 2 1/2 yrs until my older son told him to Sh_t or get off the pot and stop jerking Mom around.  He came to me the next day with an excuse that if I did not give up real estate, we would have to divorce.  I finally said "Go do it!"  This and your situation is manipulation with emotional and verbal abuse.  There are some wonderful books that may help.  Controlling People and The Verbally Abusive Relationship.  I learned a lot with both books.  Now all I need is the degree to go with the knowledge and internship I got with my crazy ex.  Ha Ha!  Good luck!
by cjent01   40 Posts
Posted on 9/4/2008 3:44 PM
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