Paula I got on eharmony last night. I was bored. I wanted to see what you had to do to find your neighbor. So funny! I now understand what you went thru to get on there. You were very brave to do that. To put yourself out there like that. I wanted to see what the process was like.
It's sorta scary and somehow demeaning (at least for me) to have to wait to see if someone thinks you're suitable. Goes back to the town I was brought up in. Old childhood garbage.
Getting on was fairly easy. I answered all the questions and they nailed my personality. I can see how it would eliminate the hassle of meeting a lot of people you have nothing in common with. I was amazed at the number of men in my age range that were available. I was pretty specific about what I didn't want. Occassional drinking and absolutely no pornography. That was a problem for my ex. There were a lot of matches; which did amaze me. I eliminated all who liked to travel. I'm not a good traveller. Get sick everytime. I find it hard to believe there are that many 6 foot men in my age range. I only say two who were 5ft. 10. There was one from my town.
One did get my interest but I am not persuing that interest. I didn't send any invites. This was just an experiment to see what you had to do and how it works. I have learned the hard way that if it's too good to be true. Run the other way.
I also tried a few other dating sites. Eharmony is better than the ones I checked out.
How do you know these men/women are being honest? I could see how someone like my ex could manipulate to find someone like me again. Who would become his doormat and caretaker. It's all done on trust that people are telling the truth. I had a friend who was on dating sites. She seemed to attract every jerk that was on those sites. But then she was an airhead herself.
It was an interesting experiment. But that's all it was. I will be deleting my acct. tonight. I'm not ready for anything like that and I'm not as brave as you. I'm not ready to get out there. I have to much here at home. Truthfully I don't think I will ever remarry and I have lost my trust in men. It's just not worth the chance I will make the same mistake again.
But I commend you for doing that. I find it funny your neighbor was the only match. So I spent my night on dating sites to see what they are all about. You were so brave to do that.