Strategy for dating post divorce
Prince or Princess Charming is not ransacking the neighborhood knocking on doors, trying to find the perfect match for that magical glass slipper. If you want to see some action, you are going to have to step out of your comfort zone and get in the game of life so BE BOLD!
Treat your personal life more like you would handle a business. Ask yourself if this person is a good “investment” of your time and energy; if not, cut bait and move on to the next prospect. Pure “carnal desire” is delicious but will not maintain its intensity in the long run; friendship paired with attraction will. Remember, “ A kiss is just a kiss,” but really liking and respecting a potential mate and wanting to jump their bones at the same time, not that’s something. When considering a long-term “investment” look at the entire package and associated baggage. Blending works better when you have common values and interests. But don’t forget the person’s family and friends. If they make you want to run for the hills, RUN. Trust your instincts, but remember everyone’s family is a little nuts!
The biggest turn-on is a confident person; any scent of desperation is like repellent. If your self-esteem is in the gutter, start doing the work you need to improve your mind, body and spirit; untl then, put your best game face on and walk the walk.
Stop obsessing about finding “the perfect person” and chill out. Get involved in things that you enjoy such as cooking, hiking, ceramics and wine tasting. Chances are you will have a great time and meet new friends who share similar interests. People always say they find their mate when they weren’t looking, so focus on your life and what makes you happy. Remember that happy is very hot.
Safety first! Always keep the first date short and sweet; for instance, meet for coffee or a drink in a crowded area. If the person is not your type and gives you the “heebie-jeebies,” your torture is minimized to thirty minutes or less. If the date goes well, you can arrange dinner plans for the follow up and then spend more time getting to know each other. Always let somebody know where you are going and when you will be back so they can check that you made it home safely.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS SAFE SEX, only safer sex, and a condom is not enough.
KEEP YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Excerpt from Congratulations on Your Divorce-The Road to Finding Your Happily Ever After
By Amy Botwinick
Womenmovingon.com