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new job 

I found out yesterday that I got the job that I applied for.  I am waiting to hear, but most likely I will start in about a month.  It amounts to a transfer to another building and a slightly different job.  The co-workers seem pleasant, the responsibilities more interesting, and I look forward to learning a few new things.  At the same time, I have mixed feelings about leaving the place that I have called home for so long.  Being apart from C, my male friend is a good idea, but I will miss him terribly.  He has been a great source of support over these past few months.  I can tell him anything and he does not judge me,  Then again, working with him is weird right now.  I am in limbo.  The husband is still not out of the apartment, I have not seen a lawyer yet, and C is dating someone else.  I told him that I am happy for him and hope that everything works out.  I really am trying to take the high road and not interfere with this relationship.  It does not help that he confides in me about their arguments and the things she does that annoy him.  I want to scream sometimes.  Picturing the two of them together hurts.  I need a fresh start with new people around me.   
by meteor  181 Posts 

Posted on 8/28/2008 12:56 AM
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Thank you, jhs.  I am starting to get excited about the new job.  Some of the nicer people at work have been wishing me luck.  The general opinion seems to be that if you stay in that place too long...you get mean or crazy.  I had to laugh when I thought about the performance evaluation being written about me.  C. would have been happy to let me write it for him and just sign it!  of course my last one made me sound like a model employee.  It is a weird situation and I am glad to be getting out of there.  When it was good, it was like working with my best friend every day.  Other days, I think that he is just as confused as I am and we need some time apart.
by meteor   181 Posts
Posted on 9/1/2008 11:28 PM
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I think the new job is a very good move. Congrats on getting it!

Regarding C...let's say I just don't get it, especially as I'm guessing he kissed back. If I was waiting for you to separate before being more than friends, I sure wouldn't be starting something with another woman (I'd be waiting/hoping you'd move on so we could get started). Or, if I just really wanted to be friends, and nothing more, that kiss would't have gotten off the ground. From what you've said, I'm thinking either he's as confused as you are, or he's just playing with somebody (either you or his new girlfriend). Either way, I'd tread lightly, as he doesn't seem to have "winner" tattooed on his forehead. And I sure wouldn't want him to be writing my performance evaluations at work!

I have to agree with sheilah that not understanding the opposite sex is definitely a two way street. Interesting we both seem to have about the same opinion.

Serious best wishes on the new job and the new opportunities it will bring, both professional and personal.
by jhs   514 Posts
Posted on 9/1/2008 12:22 PM
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Thank you sheilah and Robert.  I am starting to get excited about the new job.  They seem so much more mellow over there.Sheilah, it's funny that you mentioned jealousy.  A mutual friend of ours thinks that C is trying to make me jealous and see if I will really leave my husband.  Sigh.  He does give me mixed messages.  To explain, I have to tell an embarrassing story.  Before I knew about the new girlfriend, I gave him a big hug and a kiss one day when I had not seen him in over a week.  I kind of overdid it, playing with his hair and touching his face.  He did not exactly stop me and took a few more days to tell me about the new woman in his life.  His explanation is that he did not know how I would react.  I think that he had a pretty good idea how I would react, by avoiding him!  I am far from perfect, but I would not put my hands on another woman's husband or boyfriend.
by meteor   181 Posts
Posted on 8/29/2008 11:05 PM