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Guys/Gals- it is one of the down times. 

As much as I want to believe  I am through this. I am totally not. On the road to recovery yes but not through it all.

 

I have had many ups and downs as you all know with this. It is much better than the summer. However I am signing the last of the documents this friday with her and it has caused many emotions to come up. I swear I just need to get through this. I have made it this far.

 

But it has caused emotions inside that make me feel sad.

 

Can any of you relate to this? What was it like for you when you signed your papers and how did you deal with them? What was the outcome afterwards for you? Good \? Bad? Best thing to ever happen?

 

Also to some of you further along in your path - like 1-2 years beyond. Did you ever in your divorce feel like you would never be desired by another again? Did 1-2 years later prove different? Like did you meet someone who changed your life and made you look back thinking "God I am glad we divorced"..

 

Thank You everyone for all that you do and anything you have to say to me.

 

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by sixara  52 Posts 

Posted on 8/27/2008 2:01 PM 		Get AlertsGet Alerts!
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Thanks! Just trying to keep my chin up up. Trish your never to old for anything! :) I will be careful of relationships right now. Good advice. I just want to be comfortable in my own skin again.
by sixara   52 Posts
Posted on 8/28/2008 1:57 PM
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I felt a lot like Trisha9054.  When I left the courtroom after the divorce was finalized I felt a lot of relief too, I was actually tempted to dance in the parking lot on the way to my car.  But there was a lot of pain over the years of our marriage.  A lot of verbal/mental abuse, disrespect, lying and cheating, so I was glad to get away.  But I still wasn't happy about it.  Even after everything I dealt with there is still some feelings for him, we were married 13 years and we have two great kids together.  It's a tough thing to get over completely.

Our divorce was finalized over a month ago now and I feel at peace with the decision but I think I have yet to say that I feel happy.  I think the more I take care of myself and focus on my needs the more I will heal.  Positive thinking helps me deal with it a lot, it is a tool I use to keep myself from sinking into a depression.  I would like to add- Beware to get involved with anyone else during this time, though.  It will only make things worse.  I hadn't planned on it at all but found myself in a realtionship too soon and it set me back in my recovery process ( I wrote about it in my last blog).  Now I feel like I dealing with certain emotions for the second time around and it sucks.

Focus on yourself, stay busy, keep supportive people around you, and keep a positive outlook to your future and you will get through it!  We will all be happy again!   =)
by Emeraldsky   175 Posts
Posted on 8/27/2008 4:18 PM
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