I am so frustrated. For over a year I've been trying to buy a house. The bank needs 1 year of bank statements showing my ex is paying the house payments for the entire 20 months we've been separated, and for him to sign a quit claim deed at the close of escrow. One time he supplied a previous lendor with 6 mos statements, all blacked out, including the account number, which they couldn't use for that very reason and I had to pull out of the deal before I lost my deposit. Afterwards we agreed to counseling and put the divorce on hold, but 4 days later he had the 2nd married woman at his house so I said screw it. Since then I've been trying to get the info. He has a "new" girlfriend now so he finally agreed to give me the info but in reality he only cut and pasted the transactions off line and sent them in an email....and to top it off, he only sent 10 months, not 12. The underwriter agreed to take this (surprisingly) if he supplied a letter from the bank saying I'm not on his account. So for 3 days I've been telling him this and I get nothing from him.
So my lender agreed to call him and tell him exactly what we needed but he was waiting to hear from the underwriter. Well, today my lender calls me and says, lets wait until next month, get ONE bank statement, it would show the current payment, his account number, and his name, thereby proving the payments are current and I'm not on the account. Problem solved, little effort on his part, right? Ummm.....NO!!!
So tonight I text him and tell him what they lender said and that we'll wait until Sept 15 and just get the bank statement. I explained it to him. He freaks out saying "Its crazy that they expect me to give him a copy w my account number. They expect me to black out the whole statement?" to which I replied...."What's he gonna do with it? I gave them mine. I have nothing to hidee. and I'M not even gonna see it. But whatver, do what you want. Why is this such a big deal? You've had so many excuses its not even funny. You've blocked this for over a year and through two girlfriends. I'll talk to my lawyer about it again. This is ridiculous!"
Let the arguement escalate!!! LOL! So finally I just said, look, interest rates have gone up, I've lost money by renting, money I COULD be paying in homeowners interest and writing off.....(and in the back of my mind, thinking, so you better believe I'm gonna talk to my lawyer about getting it all back from you!!!)
So here's my question....is there any way I can FORCE him to give me the info and sign the quit claim deed on the house I want to buy....since he insists on not settling this damn divorce??? Also, can I sue him for the money I'm going to lose, by having to pay taxes on money I COULD be paying into interest on a home loan as well as for the amount that interest rates have risen since I've been asking him for all this stuff?? God I see what a friggin manipulator he is now!!!! I mean come on! He has a girlfriend.....let me GO already!!!!