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Our 19th anniversary is today

This has been a tough day for me but it has been for a different reason than what others have been going through on their anniversary.

I have been dreading today because I have feared that my STBX will want to celebrate. I just can't do it. It would give her false hope and it wouldn't be honest. The last thing I want to do today is to hurt her but I know I would have to if she wanted to do something today. So far we haven't even seen each other so it may be a non issue.

Most of our Our anniversaries have been forced and lacked any romance or passion. I can't even remember the last time we had sex on one of them if we ever have. If we did, it was out of "duty" and not love. I'll always remember trying to find a card. That was my first sign that something was very wrong. I could never find one that said what I felt. That's because they don't make them that say;

" Happy anniversary! Thanks for another year with a complete lack of love passion and sex!"

by RichBrewer 214 Posts

Posted on 8/19/2008 7:43 PM

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Hey Rich
Sorry I rolled into my own Problems , I hope you were able to get threw the night ok. At least you care enouph to not want to hurt with lie and BS . Your OK ! Hope today is better for you!
.All This Harder Then I ever dreamed of!
RL
(Birdy)

by AuntBirdy 178 Posts
Posted on 8/20/2008 3:55 AM

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Hi Rich, I recently had my 15th anniversary but by mutual agreement we did not celebrate. Since he had already asked me for the divorce and I was making arrangements to move out, it would have seemed pretty silly. Fortunately when I said this to him, he agreed. So we just quietly let the day go past with no special recognition on either of our parts. I know what you mean about the card thing. Hallmark doesn't really make a card for "Here's to another year together. Woo."

I hope your day was okay.

by duchick 583 Posts
Posted on 8/19/2008 8:36 PM

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For The First Time I actually Kind of NOw KNOW what My STE has been feeling and say! Ok The card thing is me I never could find the rite card I gather nor could he for July 12 was out 23 Anv. & we did not give each other cards. But If they had one with the saying you said I am sure that would be the one I received.
My would Be thanks for another year Of wanting you so bad I could cry AGAIN, Yet as soon as you open your Mouth I see why I have no desire to have sex with you, make love, for I cannot have JUST sex. I need Passion, I need love, I need Romance. I need to be Loved & you no longer Love me .Unless Of course Being asked If I am giving up the Golden Pus*y ! His Idea Of Romance I don't Know Maybe I do have a Problem.
I am sorry you are in the sam e boat as me Just with different Partners. On our Anv he had no Idea I wanted out . I bought him two oak wooden (real wood) filling cabinets for his Office here at the house . He gave me NOTHING! Oh wait last week I bought myself a bottle Of perfume the only kind I wear and he said Happy anv.
Keep me posted On how the night goes. I hope yours is better then mine was. Hang in there ! At least you two live apart . You do yes?

by AuntBirdy 178 Posts
Posted on 8/19/2008 8:19 PM

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