3rd marriage counseling session...
we had our 3rd marriage counseling session yesterday and actually it was very beneficial we talked about how we first met and of course how and why we fell in love. Before, all I could think of was his "affair" and how long it actually lasted; and I would always think of her thinking of how she is still going through life with no care in the world that she was capable of destroying a family. But, the more I thought about it she one day will get what's coming to her!! "karma" and my husband his going through life everyday in "shame" thinking this is unforgiveable and how close he was to loosing his family. But, I also got an understanding yesterday about "why" the affair happened I saw my flaws even though I didn't want to admit it! it still doesn't "excuse his actions" but, at least I know what could of led to that. I know alot of couples once they find out there spouses had an "affair" they go straight to the divorce attorney don't get me wrong that is the first thing I did when I found out but, then if it wasn't for my lawyers advice to think about what I am doing before I proceed he understood I was angry, hurt, and just full of emotions but, he did make me think about it. So, I am not saying "affairs" are okay no way I wouldn't want no one to hurt like I did it sux... but, i guess what I learned through all this was 1. It wasn't my fault 2. communicate always 3. learn to "love" yourself and that your worth everything!!! 4. Keep strong (it's hard) but, don't let saddness over come you....