Weekend at Daddy's 

The boys came back from their weekend at their Dad's this morning.  I usually let them get re-acquainted with their toys and rooms before sitting down to talk to them about their weekend.
 
Our talk today has left me upset.  The boys told me that Mrs. Ex wasn't very nice to them this weekend.  They said that there was an "incident" (that's a word they must have picked up from them or they were coached to say it) with Mrs. Ex and Daddy and that Daddy was angry at Mrs. Ex.  I told them that this has nothing to do with them and that Daddy and Mrs. Ex will have discussions just like Mommy and The Boyfriend will but that it was okay and that they should not worry about that because the adults would work it out.  Then one of them said:

No Mommy, Mrs. Ex was mad at us and yelled at us and Daddy got mad at Mrs. Ex and then they went to the dining room and started     yelling at each other.

    WHAT????

Calmly I asked:  Why did Mrs. Ex yell at you? 

I’m not a crazy mother and I know my kids aren’t saints so yes, I can see how yelling could be in order.  I am more upset about the two of them fighting while the kids are there (don’t go crazy on me, I know couples argue.  This is a new home, new marriage, new Mrs. Ex and my kids are experiencing the newness so I think arguing can be put on hold at least until all the kids get used to the marriage). 
I digress...

Mrs. Ex yelled at us because we ate the “special yogurt”. 

    WHAT?????

What “especial yogurt”?

The “especial yogurt” that Mrs. Ex said is only for her kids.

    WHAT?????

What do you mean “only for her kids”?

She said that the “special yogurt” isn’t for us and we didn’t know Mommy so we ate it. Daddy told us we could have it.

So what happened next?

Then Daddy heard Mrs. Ex yelling and he came to see what was wrong and Mrs. Ex told him and he started yelling at her.  Then they went into the dining room and they kept yelling. 

What did you do?

We went to the den and closed the door.  We were scared.

And then what happened?

Daddy came in to find us and told us we were going to go to the park.  So we went to the park.  Daddy is so funny Mommy. He got in the jungle gym and was acting like a monkey making funny noises...

I hugged them. I laughed at their silly Daddy stories.

I went to my office and called Mark.  He hasn’t called me back.  I’m angry.  Really, really angry.  How do you tell a child, your husband’s child, that they weren’t supposed to eat something because it was meant for YOUR child?  What is wrong with that woman? I’m going to stay calm.  I promise to stay calm.