Are you married to a narcissist? 

Do you know what it is like to be the victim of emotional abuse?  Do you know how a narcissist acts?  Do you realize there is something wrong but you can't put your finger on it?  There are many types of abuse; some more prevelant, some more obvious, some mostly subtle - abuse takes many forms and many degrees.  There are web sites that will help you understand and evaluate if you are experiencing emotional abuse.  I was married for nearly 25 years to my first husband before he died of leukemia; I put up with a lot out of commitment to our marriage and to our children.  Three years after his death I met a man I thought was my soul mate; the perfect communicative partner.  He was a con.  Recently all his actions have meaning for me now since I understand he suffers from the personality disorders of narcissism, antisocial, and passive-aggressive.  This doesn't make it right or easy to live with; in fact, I have made the decision to leave.  I hope if you are the victim of emotional abuse you will recognize it and take steps to either get help for your loved one or make the decision that you must take charge of your life and move on.  You only have one life; you must live it the way you want to and not accept what is not normal in your eyes.