Search our site
divorce360.com provides help, advice and community for people
contemplating, going through or recovering from divorce and the issues around it,
including separation, divorce laws, spousal support and emotional issues.

profile
Community  :: achiever479's Stuff  :: achiever479's Blog

  click here 
Personal Tags
ADVERTISING PARTNERS


Blogs
You can search for Blogs by tag here:


Invite Others
Invite friends and family to join you on d360! - Click here

Thank You.... 

On my last post I asked about confronting the "OW" .  I want to thank everyone for there advice after alot of thinking I decided to step back and not confront her.  I came to realize that in order for me to move on is to "accept" what happened and not let it break me and become a bitter, angry woman.  I guess why I wanted to confront her is as you all know she still works with my husband (different shifts) but, what friends are telling me and my husband she is still asking questions about our relationship like " How does his wife look" " Is she pretty" "Is she going to leave him" and she told one of her friends to tell my husband that "Her doors will always be open to him" .  I just wanted to confront her and tell her " to get over it" and "move on" and his intentions were never to leave his "family" for you! but, I won't I will just put everything behind me and try to become the person I used to be.  I know "what goes around comes around" and one day she will be in my shoes!! So, again "thank you" everyone for your advice it really has helped me and of course it feels good to know that I can go to this website and "express my feelings" and know that someone out there has gone, or is going through the same thing I am and understands exactly how I am feeling right now.  Thanks, I actually woke up today feeling "OK" and said "Today will be the day I make a change for "ME" and  a postitive one at that" I will not let the "OW" break me no way!! In order for me and my husband to move on I will have to "accept" and figure out why it happened! and try to make changes in our marriage I realize that my husband is trying to change for the better he looks foward to going to marriage counseling and when we go and it's done he now realizes how I am feeling and makes time to talk to me. I will focus on my "FAMILY" and take it day by day. 
by achiever479  113 Posts 

Posted on 8/14/2008 7:36 AM
Get AlertsGet Alerts!
Sent to Friendsend to friend
0

Tags: cheating spouses , should I stay or should I go; moving on after the affair ,
<< Previous Post  |  Blog posts by achiever479  |  Next Post >>


Comments for "Thank You...."  (2) (You must be logged in to answer)




"Achiever"  Yes.  The name fits.

 

You can make it.  Both of you together.  My advice now is pretty basic:

A. Counselors and therapists are decent mediators and useful advisers, but they hold no secret reciepes on how to make it work.  In the end, their just people with lives often every bit as messed up as ours.  I think it's great that your going and that he's excited about it.  But it's the two of you who will solve this.

B. Don't forget you're in this together.  Demand that he change whatever led to this.  But face your own shortcomings as well. 

C. Never get complacant.  10 years from now you should still be asking is my marriage strong?

by Caldwell77   59 Posts
Posted on 8/14/2008 5:30 PM
0





Good for you achiever!  It's good to hear you're coming to this place.  I think you've made the right choice.    I'll pray for you and your family.
by Robert-Boyd   3918 Posts
Posted on 8/14/2008 12:57 PM
0







Divorce360.com is not a substitute for advice from a lawyer, accountant, financial planner, therapist or other professional to obtain advice. Divorce360.com is not intended to, and should not, take the place of professional advice. The opinions expressed in the divorce360.com message boards are those of the author and the author alone. Divorce360.com does not endorse any specific product or service.

expand information center
divorce focused content ::