Yesterday afternoon, my friend came down with her kids. We chatted a bit and she knows what has been going on with me these last few months. SHe is going thru a family mess as well. Her husband is not the nicest person in the world, but he is a good father and he is the provider of the family. We chat for a bit and she is wondering why she cant stand her husband but can get rid of him and I love mine and can't seem to keep him.
Mine finally answered my question of "WHAT DO YOU WANT" and the answer was me and our family. As Happy as that makes me feel. I do know I have heard that before. He came down after work last night and again, we talked more.
Every time he leaves our problems compound into bigger problems.
I not only have to deal with his family, but now he has to deal with mine for what has been done. He used to be so close to my family and when he left he shut them out as well but they always welcomed him back in. After this last time tho, well...... My mom says I am stupid for even talking to him and she is really not talking to me. Those 2 were very close but him not answering her calls or talking to her. My brother says "here we go again" I know & he knows he will have to prove himself to them but they are going to be very hard on him. I know they dont want to see me or the girls hurt. They even say when he leaves he is not himself and not happy. But the fact of all of this makes them not want to trust him. Because of mine & the kids hearts.
I have learned from my mom growing up though. I remember when things were rough with her and my dad. She got mad and they yelled & screamed butshe stuck by there and look at them today. Still together and still with love. Thats what I want and I think this os worth fighting for.
Me and the girls talked and we decided to give him one more chance but this will be the last. We love him but we dont want to keep going thru this either.
Oh well, time to get something done. Have a good afternoon all