This was hard to write and took a lot to put down in words. Thanks to a friend who said Roar like a lioness and speak with your heart. A blog I had just read struck a cord with me. I am non confrontational person so I could not agree even though there were a lot of people who did. I don’t know all the facts. I just know my experience. The one thing that bothered me was that someone wrote some people are too lazy, too immature or too selfish to give the marriage a chance. Wow! I have to put myself in his wife shoe. Does my family really need to put up with this. I think it probably took this person a lot of courage and strength to leave her husband with children and another on the way. It takes allot for some of us to leave. Yes the husband is now getting help but did it take his wife to leave him for him to do the right thing. He wants a chance at saving his marriage but maybe she has already given him 1,000,000 chances.
This is why the blog hit me like a ton of bricks. Because I am the wife that left her husband and would not give him a chance NOT BECAUSE I AM LAZY, IMMATURE, SELFISH OR UNCARING. I LEFT BECAUSE OF MANY THING AND ONE WAS HE WAS A MEAN DRUNK! After I left him. He told me he would change, he would go get the help he needs for his GAMBLING, ANGER MANAGEMENT, and DRINKING. He would do anything to get me back but it was too late it took everything I had to leave him there was no way I would go back to that life. So I can truly understand this person wife for not wanting to go back. It takes a lot for us to go emotionally and physically. This was probably the hardest thing his wife has done. Just because he is sober now does not mean he will stay that way if she went back. He may never drink a