My stbx, is such a "work of art"....and the thing that REALLY pisses me off is that no one sees it but ME!....as far as the people in HIS life anyway....EVERYONE in my life see it....but his parents, siblings, kids, nieces, friends, co-workers, etc....they ALL think he's a friggin saint! Okay..enuf of that. I am certain that he WILL be found out in time, and not with any help from me. LOL! So today I go to my counselor, and I tell her all these thoughts I'm having, many related to a church series we've been doing called "30 Days to Live" and what would you do, who would you tell you loved them, etc, if you found out you only had 30 days to live. So anyway, my counselor and I get to talking, and I realize...OMG!!! I'M WASTING MY FRIGGIN 30 DAYS ON HIS ASSSSS!!!!!! WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING!!!??? So my awesome counselor gives me this book to read....so I begin to read....you NEED to read this book!!! It's called "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken" by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt. It's really funny....but damn....SO EYE-OPENING!!!
So I decided to blog on it, and will do so ongoing. So besides the title of the book, here's the one thing that jumped out at me.
"If he (or she) ended it, that means he (or she) doesn't want to try to fix it either." "When you and your stbx got into this relationship, you were two brand-new sports cars driving side by side. You were sleek, desirable, sexy, and confident, and the ride was exhilarating. After a while you zigged when he zagged, you weren't driving the same speed anymore, one of you was always trying to catch up, and eventually you crashed and totaled the car. When the insurance paid out, one of you decided to buy a new car instead of fixing the totaled one. OMG!!! What the hell was I thinking?? He doesn't want it, why should I waste MY time? I see things so differently now!!! "Who wants a relationship that despite attempted repairs always stalls when you try to shift gears? Not me!"