Was I a Fool? 

Four years ago, my husband traveled quite a bit.  In the midst of switching cellular companies, I switched to his, in where he offered up his old phone so that he could buy a new one.  As I'm transferring all of my data, I find old text messages from while he was out of town. Only in the sent box.  Two of them obviously referring to a female, in which the text states he's leaving town soon, would really like to see her again before he goes.  I confronted him about this, and he claims a guy friend's phone messed up and he had to use my husbands to text this girl.....(Ok, then why wasn't there a text saying, Hey, this is "such and such"  I'm using my friend's number?) But I let it go, while female friends looked at me with that Tsk, tsk sort of expression.  My husband also had what I call an "emotional affair" .  For a non-writer, it was enough for him to write a couple of journal notes and go on and on about his dismay when she stopped talking to him, and how devastated he was, and that he'd try to approach her again, and only the future would tell how it all came out.  She by the way is married.  I finally confronted him about this too, (took me a while to get the guts) and he firmly states she was just a "sister" to him, someone he could really talk to... Yeah, when he didn't talk to me.   I don't think my husband has physically cheated on me, but I wonder sometimes as I'm pondering over how things will be in the future, was I really a fool???