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Accepting The Truth 

How do you accept that your partner has actually cheated on you? It's hard to think that after going through the steps of getting married, having a home together and children too, that he would actually consider taking a chance at losing it all. I know, I know, he probably didn't think that I would find out that he cheated. He wasn't counting on the fact that the other woman would pursue him and leave messages on his cell phone, knowing that I would be able to access them. He didn't think about the fact that not only did he have responsibilities from his family, that the other woman would also want his attention as well. Did he not have a clue to how this would all pan out in the end? Wasn't having a family enough for him? I guess not. I have to sit down and accept the fact that he did this to us and I have to realize that he wasn't thinking. He didn't care about my feelings. He only cared about what he was doing, and the joy that he was feeling. I now have to accept that. It's hard to accept it, but I will. I need to move on from this life-changing event that happened in my life and I have to make a new life for myself. One little baby step at a time, but I know that I can do it.


by Deborah-Trevino  260 Posts 
Posted on 7/27/2008 3:12 PM
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Tags: infidelity , cheating , moving on with life , truth about infidelity

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I am really sorry to hear that you are going through this.  I too was cheated on.  My ex cheated on me with my son's daycare teacher (sickening huh?).  It was horrible and he was a wonderful guy that I never could imagine would do such a terrible thing not only to me, but to our family.  The betrayal, the disrepect is very hard to deal with and put behind you.  I am 3 months out from my divorce being final and I still have good days and bad days, but know that it will get better.  Just remember that he did something horrible to you, but dont let him take the rest of your life away too.  Take the control back and make a better life for yourself and your kids.  You deserve that just like I did!  Hang in there and good luck as you forge ahead.
by JLK   278 Posts
Posted on 7/27/2008 3:16 PM
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