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depressed and tired 

My husband says in one breath that he wants to work on things take it day by day. then later that evening he says he' still confused, doesnt know if he wants to be married or single. so... the next day after doing a lot of thinking I told him that I was letting him go . I cant continue to hurt and wonder all the time if he's going to come back. He seemed shocked by this. Said that he thought I would wait for him even though he knows it is selfish of him to feel that way. I told him I just cant do it anymore. It is not fair to me to be the only one willing to try and make our marriage work. I'm having a hard time dealing with the decision to let go. I miss him but at the same time I dont. Im tired of all the bullcrap. I dont trust him anymore. we have 2 boys and that makes it hard. He sorta seemed releived that I made the decision I think he just wasnt man enough to do it. but Im not going to let him string me along anymore. I feel stronger now but still it hurts. I feel so down I know it will get better but..... while Im going through the depression it makes you feel like your numb. I hate this feeling.
by charleybear  56 Posts 

Posted on 7/25/2008 9:10 AM
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I think that's the first big step, Charley.  Making that decision gives you a focus, and now you can takes steps, one at a time, toward that goal.

Good luck, and we're here for you.
by 2much42long   1134 Posts
Posted on 7/25/2008 1:29 PM
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Charley, things are always easier when you have a definate direction. I'm glad you made a choice. It'll be hard but time will help.
by itmustbeme   422 Posts
Posted on 7/25/2008 1:07 PM
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I know exactly how you feel, Charley.  I too am getting to the breaking point you're at.  I too feel like my wife is flip flopping, being wishy washy, and sending mixed messages.  I think she's pushing my buttons and manipulating me into being the one to file for divorce because she doesn't want to be "the bad guy" and can play "the victim" to everyone she knows.  I'm tired of the mixed messages and being the only one who wants to try and save this marriage.  You know what?  I think she's going to be just as surprised as your husband is.

I am giving it one more chance with a marriage counselor, but after that, my mind will be made up and it will be time to move on, regardless of what she thinks.  I am sorry that things haven't worked out for you, Charley, but you must move on.  Being stuck in that limbo isn't fair to either of you.  I'm sorry you're hurting and I can sympathize with you.  The feeling will pass, though, and you can take solace in the fact that you are making a decision to move on.  Stay strong!!!
by BlueB   817 Posts
Posted on 7/25/2008 9:25 AM
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Follow your heart.  You did the right thing if you felt it in your heart.  I hope to feel it to as my situation is so similar.  I guess I still hang on because he says he doesn't want a separation or divorce until he figures himself out.