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7/23/08 

Yesterday was chock full of suprises.  We had agreed months ago to sell the SUV and use the money to buy cars for the kids.  Now I learn via the kids that she is unwilling to do this even though she was the one who came up with the idea.  She wants me to take on payments for cars for the kids.  Not gonna happen.  Now is not the time to take on debt.  So of course I am the bad guy in their eyes.  Her manipulation of them will be seen in the long term but right now its difficult.  I'm just going to keep moving ahead doing the right things and not playing the kids. 

 

Last night was our third fondue night!.  Its becoming quite the hit.  Originally it was just 4 of us.  Last night their were 7 kids, my buddy, and me.  The boys just love it and my daughter enjoyed being with us.  Lots of good discussion and of course food.  We're going to start mixing it up with other meals, fajitas next week.  Quality time is the best.

 

The house is mine alone this weekend.  The STBX is going back up north to see the boyfriend, kids are also going but to see friends.  They don't know about the BF.  I think he's getting ready to move down here which would be great.

by falcon81  335 Posts 

Posted on 7/23/2008 10:54 AM
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Thanks for the advice.
by falcon81   335 Posts
Posted on 7/23/2008 11:59 AM
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I feel for you, man.  I had a similar situation with finances. Depending on your kids' ages, the best way to attack the situation is honesty-tell your wife that you don't appreciate her insensitivity and tell your kids what you wanted to happen and why it didn't come through.  Good for you for taking time to enjoy quality family time.  That fondue will have some real substantial meaning in your kids lives if you continue to make them a priority.

Oh, and word to the wise-try NOT to get involved in your stbx's personal drama/relationship turmoil.  Just makes you look desperate and pathetic.
by Youknowit   22 Posts
Posted on 7/23/2008 11:16 AM
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