OK so someone that I talk to all the time and confide in pointed out that I have no control. My husband has all the control. I let him choose what we do, where we eat, the movies we watch, when we can have visitors, how our money gets spent, etc. He is picky and I just go with the flow but in the process I have given him the control and I go a long with it.
He also chooses which vehicle I drive. He has a SUV from before our marriage, and together we have purchased a truck. I am stuck driving the SUV that I HATE because he prefers the truck. HE PREFERS! So as a stepping point to getting some control back, last night I simply stated that starting Monday I will be driving the truck to and from work. I have always wanted to drive the truck and it was purchased when I gave up my car. We own it together, yet I NEVER get to drive it. Well he snaps back and me and asks why. I simply state I prefer to drive the truck, I hate the SUV, I want to drive the truck to work for a while. He flips out. Says why all of the sudden is this an issue and I reply it isn't all of the sudden. I have always wanted to drive the truck you just don't listen when I ask. Well I am not asking anymore, it belongs to me too and I deserve to drive it. I tell him that the SUV was not my vehicle choice it was his. And he yells, you know what, from now on everything in this house is either mine or yours NOT OURS.