A little back ground...I have 4 kids , one of which is 26 . She was married young .
I remarried about 2 months before her and started working for my new husbands mother. She owns her own business. After a while my daughter also came to work for the company.
Issues arose with the situation, my husband and I separated. My boss/mother in law who is a huge control freak , became difficult to work for. My daughter and I decided to start our own company.
I had to leave the business before our planned time because of issues with my now ex mother in law. The plan became for me to get the business up and running and my daughter would join. My daughter decided to stay with my ex mother in law as she was afraid that the new company would not support 2 families.
Well , my business boomed. My income was double what I had ever made before for the first year. The next year it doubled again...
My daughter and her husband were not on speaking terms with me at this point. I am sure my ex mother in law was helping with that situation . She is like that.
About a year later , my daughter and her husband split. She had found someone else. One of the affairs that begins as emotional and proceeds to intimacy. I felt for my son in law.We talked. At this time , my daughter owned half of the company that I used to work for( one of my ex mother in laws ploys to get her to stay) and my son in law had been working for them also . He wanted to work for me. I said ok, at that time I had one full time employee and we were swamped. I knew they could not work together anymore and she was half owner so she could not leave.
Now for the rest of the story...he made it sound as my daughter was to blame of course..she did this and that. You know, the ONE side of the story. He and my employee became good friends. She is married , btw. They would spend weekends at bars and at his house. Much of their free time was spent together. I told both of them the relationship was not good. All they said was WE ARE JUST GOOD FRIENDS!!
Well, I had to fire her because she was just not working out. Too many mistakes and she would not listen to what she was told to do. In fact , she argued about it. I at one point even asked, WHo writes your paycheck????
That was on a Friday last fall. The next Monday he said he was starting his own company. I said ok...what ever .
Of course she works for him but also has a job at a car parts store. They are still together...
I found out this week that they are now living together. She has feelings for him . I knew he was in love with her. But now, after all that they said about my daughter, they have done it to her husband.
They spend their weekends drinking and partying. Her husband went to boot camp and really wanted her to stop drinking so much. She is an alcoholic.
Why on earth would they bash someone for something then do the same thing? To me..that makes what they have done worse! They both were warned of the dangers but that fell on deaf ears.
I might get to see them in the morning. She texted me that there are things at his house that belong to my family. I have no desire to be associated with them. I plan on picking the stuff up early after requesting that it be put on the carport.
The sad thing is that I was so stupid to believe the things he told me about my daughter. After they were gone from my business, my daughter and I were able to reconcile things.
After I saw how he is, found out what he had done, I apologized to my daughter . I told her I was sorry I was an idiot and I have to learn everything the hard way.That will never happen again. You know, we learn how to parent on our firstborn. I even apologized that she was the one I learned on.
I had a journal entry a few weeks ago about divorce. This is the reason I said to listen with both ears and not to take sides. To hear BOTH sides and realize there is a lot of things that go on behind closed doors. The type of things she was putting up with are inexcusable. I do not condone her affair at all. But I understand why she did it.
Go figure.....