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Does Your Ex Participate 

When I was going through my divorce, my ex was right there, ready, willing and able to participate in our daughter's life. After a little while, and he saw that we didn't have any hope of getting back together, he just all of a sudden, stopped his interest. His caring of how we were doing totally came to a hault. He no longer called ten times a day, begging to get back together. He stopped calling to see how our daughter was doing. He no longer had a desire to help be a parent. I was very hurt by this because I believe that together or not together that all children deserve to have both of their parents available to them at any time they need. Children are innocent in divorce and have no say about things until they reach a certain age. They don't get to choose if we stay together or move away. I was not happy when my ex chose not to keep in contact with our daughter. She needed him. She needed to hear that he still loved her, no matter what was going on with us. My ex just stopped participating in being a father, and I don't understand why. He always says that he is too busy, but when do you get so busy that you can't be a parent? Why would a man just quit being a father? I am totally confused at his actions and don't understand where he's coming from.
by deborah-trevino  640 Posts 

Posted on 7/17/2008 7:35 AM
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He is trying to punish you thru her. That is wrong. There is not a whole lot you can do but just be the best parent you can be. Document all the things going on in case you need it for the future.
You are so right, it is not the childrens fault. It amazes me how some parents will use the kids to punish their ex. The kids are dealing with enough and don't need that crap.
I am sorry for you and for her.
by mtnvly   2419 Posts
Posted on 7/19/2008 7:08 AM
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I think that they become so self absorbed with the "new life" that they forget the old one.

remind him of the responsibility to the kids.  Time will tell how truly a good parent he will be.
by dyben   563 Posts
Posted on 7/19/2008 3:32 AM
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