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Prenups, People!!!

Seriously. We all think/know/hope/expect our marriage to last forever. Well, guess what? Over half of all marriages do not work out; we know this and yet we still do not learn.

If you are rich- you need a prenup.

If you think that someday you will be rich- you need a prenup.

If you own anything, especially from before you were married- you need a prenup!

It's just always a good idea. And if you didn't draw up the papers before you got married, there is still time. Make a written legal agreement regarding assets NOW.

I didn't have a prenup my first time around, but it didn't really matter since neither of us owned anything. This time, for my second marriage, I did not get one. We now, between the two of us, own two new cars and a house. Believe me, drawing up a postnuptial agreement is VERY HIGH on my to-do list.

We all want to believe that love and marriage is everlasting. But it is a legal contract as much as it is a union before god. You need to protect your assets and hammer out any details before you end up losing everything in a bitter divorce settlement. Don't be "that person"; be prepared!

by deadgirrrl 73 Posts

Posted on 7/14/2008 4:19 PM

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Well, pre-nups always struck me as a bit counter-intuitive to the whole idea of marriage as a partnership with someone you trust implicitly. When I married STBX, neither of us had two nickels to rub together. So a pre-nup would have been pretty ridiculous for us.

But I can understand why people would want and need them, especially people who go into a marriage with significant property they gained before the marriage.

by duchick 583 Posts
Posted on 7/14/2008 7:39 PM

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Here is the thing about pre-nups though...this is not something you sring on your partner AFTER you ask them to marry you.

That is unfair - it's like bait n switch...

I love you unconditionally, I want to marry you - but wait, there is a condition now that you said yes...

agreement over pre-nups (or even post-nups) has to be mutual. It should go right along with those top factors you should know about each other before even entering into an engagement - like how do you handle finances and do you want kids...

If you are the type like dead here, that is dead pan insistant that a pre or post nup is something that is a must if you marry or are married and want protection, then you damn well better make sure that the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is on the same page...

asking someone to sign a pre-nup after entering into an engagement with them, and not disctussing your views on them prior, is like pulling a pin on a grenade and hoping you can hold it up until after you say "I do" without your arm cramping. it could blow up in your face.

You could be starting your marriage, if they don't dump you, with communication and trust issues...not the greatest way to enter into what is supposed to be happily ever after...

by spaznskitz 4012 Posts
Posted on 7/14/2008 4:28 PM

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