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Did I Just Waste My Time? 

I feel like I have wasted many years of my life with this man. He wanted to get married, and I wanted to wait. I should have listened to that "gut" feeling I had and held off on tying the knot. But no, my heart was willing and anxious to be with this man til death-do-us-part. At first, the marriage was wonderful. I guess that's called the honeymoon phase. But even after that wore down, we were still alright. We had our daughter and about the time that she was 2 yrs old was possibly when things started going downhill. I spent countless days, months, years of my life being a good wife to him. I look at things now, and I wonder if anything could have changed his cheating on me. He didn't cheat on me in the beginning, so what in the world changed things to make him think it was alright to do this to me? It saddens me to think that I just wasted my time on this marriage, even hoping that things would have worked out for us. Did I waste my precious time?
by deborah-trevino  640 Posts 

Posted on 11/28/2007 3:02 PM
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She wanted to marry me. that's the main difference with my story. but otherwise it's similar to yours. I was overwhelmed by her enthusiasm to get married, so I went with it. After kids kids in rapid succession it was obvious that we'd have to put on a pretty good show to make the marriage last. Then the 3rd kid came suddenly (and somewhat miraculously since we weren't together much that year. Now it's over, but I do not feel it was a waste. The kids, the few good times, and the load I learned about myself left me with at least some value.
by steve   3 Posts
Posted on 12/4/2007 7:33 PM
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I guess now that I am getting older, I look back on things and wonder if I could have done something more to fix this, but I know that deep down in my heart, that HE was the one who had to fix his cheating, because I had to learn the hard way that I couldn't control him or his behaviour. Sad, but true
by deborah-trevino   640 Posts
Posted on 12/3/2007 11:14 AM
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I feel the same way. It's so sad. I know what you mean. I feel like it was all a waste.
by cindy   79 Posts
Posted on 11/28/2007 3:19 PM
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