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I'm wondering? 

Am I the only one who can leave my heart at the door when it comes to relationships?

 

Let me say this about that.  I have loved several men in my life.  I loved my husband.  But there has come a point in each and every one of those relationships where is was necessary to protest my heart with my brain.  I am not a man hater I assure you.  But this is my personal experience.  and we have already covered that I have issues.

 

So like I said am I the only one who does this?

 

I feel like I am.  Don't get me wrong when things started going wrong with my husband.  I begged, pleaded, cried and everything else to try to work this out.  None of that worked.  The sad and unfortunate part is that once he saw that I was leaving and moving on with my life he realized he "LOVED" me.  But by then I had closed the door on the pain of being hurt by him.  (I know I have issues) 

by genx  83 Posts 

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Well, I would, but you aren't divorced yet, and he might use it against you if some strange guy called him up to talk about his wife.

spaz, you're so right.  We did go through the five stages, and they haven't.  But can you tell me why my wife has spent nine years stuck in the denial stage?

I do like the idea of the Mac truck and the steamroller.  Can I borrow them when you're finished, genx?  (What's that, spaz?  A metaphor?  Oh!  Darn.)  Maybe we should just settle for introducing my wife to your husband.  They already have so much in common.  But she's probably too old for him.  Oh well.
by 2much42long   1134 Posts
Posted on 7/11/2008 7:57 PM
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The sad part is that I can't leave yet. ? So that I can get finish school so that I can support my daughter without help! 

I am in limbo and I hate it!

Sorry that was my temper tantrum for today.
by genx   83 Posts
Posted on 7/11/2008 7:57 PM
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genex

when you are unhappy in a relationship you, like many, go through the stages of grief and loss while still IN the relationship - by the time you say goodbye, it's over - for you, it really is - you have hit the acceptance stage...

thing you have to put in perspective though is that all this time you were working on your feelings, going on that mental rollercoaster ride, your significant other was probably clueless - wouldn't be surprised if you have a really fantastic poker face and should take up texas hold em. - so when you told him - you may as well have hit him with a mac truck, then double backed with a steam roller.

Now he has to go through the five stages of loss, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and then finally - acceptance. Not necessarily in that order and some stages he will probably repeat.

Just give him time...
by spaznskitz   4004 Posts
Posted on 7/11/2008 7:45 PM
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