Deciding whether to get a divorce is one of the hardest decisions anyone in a relationship will ever have to make. It often boils down to the tough question: is the marriage worth saving? Do we even want to save it?
Sometimes it is a clearly defined situation. One or both spouses know that it is over, for good. The ship has sailed on that marriage and there is no turning back. Both are ready to split and move on with their lives.
Other times though, there could be a chance to repair what is broken. If a couple is willing to try, there is no telling what may happen. They may work through their problems and grow old together. Or perhaps nothing in the world could have kept them together.
I don't think I'm a fan of marriage counseling, at least not in my marriage(s). It would have done nothing to save my first marriage, that's for sure. My current husband once suggested we go get counseling, but I told him no. In this case, any problems we have are based on inherent personality differences. How can counseling help two people that have little in common and do not want to change? I'm sure plenty of people will say I'm wrong, but I just can't ever picture myself sitting in an armchair in some office laying out all the details of my marriage. I think it is a desperate move, at least in my mind.
The only two people in your marriage are you and your spouse. I don't think an outsider can ever truly understand what goes on behind closed doors. If you are the type that needs to be listened to by an uninvolved ear, go for it. Just talking can sometimes help you work things out. Saying things out loud can help perspective, for sure. I just don't think anyone should act as though a marriage counselor can magically swoop in and make everything okay. That is entirely up to you and your spouse!